A weird set of coincidences in my family…

Of the female blood relatives on my maternal side, I’m the only widow. There are plenty of widowers, and some uncles and male cousins (blood relatives) predeceased the women they married.
But of my female cousins who are gone, [b]they[/b] left widowers.
In my own line,
My great grand-grandmother died at age 59, leaving her husband.
My grandmother died at age 79, leaving my grandfather.
My aunt (my mother’s only sister), passed at age 69, leaving her husband.
Then my own mother, age 89, leaving my father.
My sisters and I were looking at the records and thinking how odd it was.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Quite the opposite on both sides of my family.

Only my grandfather on my mother's side and great grandfather on my father's side died because of war.

All the rest died long before their wives of so called "natural causes". I can go back three generations on both.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@bijouxbroussard data is only reliant on it's interpretation.

If you don't interpret the data, the face of it can mean anything, nothing or be outright misleading.

The why's do matter.

They are the interpretation of the data. This is a common mistake in science today and why the different meanings keep on changing. Often finally given some reasons. Yet not all the reasons.

"What is", actually keeps on changing by science.

Why in physics they keep on challenging things.

Challenging is the backbone of all science. Even if it doesn't follow "common sense".

How is e=mc² common sense? Yet quantum physics challenges that to it's very core by it's own "data" !

The data is interpreted differently.

Another controversy: Is energy a wave or a particle or a reaction?

They are all still being challenged! The data says all three. Yet how can two different things be the same thing much less three? Like saying god and the devil are the same entities, then include the in between as well.

Is that common sense‽ Is that "what is"? So how can anyone say precisely what anything is?

Only when you interpret the data can you give examples of reality.

So a electrician will say energy is a wave. A physicist will say energy is a particle. A chemist will say energy is a reaction.

Whose interpretation is "what is"?

bijouxbroussard · F

@DeWayfarer So in other words, my guess is as good as anyone’s, if the data is open to interpretation. Then there’s no solid answer. Which is okay. I’ve stated data that were on family death records, I found it interesting, and the last thing I was looking for was an argument.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@bijouxbroussard ok! So you know, I'm not really arguing. This is not an issue with me. Just attempting to give how science interprets things. Statistics is considered a math science. You can prove anything with statistics.

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 26-30

Tbh you remind of my paternal aunt who has been a widow since before I was born. I never noticed the similarity till now. She looks a lot like you physically. My paternal grandma also died before paternal grandpa (they were cousins, I never saw them. Both died in the 80s).
My cousin, my aunt's daughter kinda lost her husband a few years ago, he suddenly got a strange disease and he lost his memory. He was barely 40 maybe younger when it happened. What's strange is that my aunt's husband was also pretty young when he died. My cousin grew up most of her life without a father and now her kids are also growing up without a father.

bijouxbroussard · F

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether That’s really very interesting. 🤔

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 26-30

@bijouxbroussard Your old photos that you once posted reminded me of old photos of my dad's family. And then one day you mentioned you got North African roots. It's all very interesting in deed.
Unrelated but there's this Native American character in a show that also reminded me of both my aunt and you because in my mind you really look alike I have thought about it for some time but I never mentioned it.

bijouxbroussard · F

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether So I did discuss that ! I wasn’t sure if I had. 😄

DrWatson · 70-79, M

I never knew my paternal grandmother. When I asked my father how she died , he attributed it to all the childbirths she endured.

I think that for earlier generations,, this was a common reason for the woman to die first.

bijouxbroussard · F

@DrWatson I admit I don’t know much about my maternal grandfather’s mother. He was the last of 15 children which seemed unimaginable. He and my grandmother had 10, including my mother, and as an adult I once asked him if there had been any miscarriages. He was always rather blunt but funny; he replied, "No, no losses—every time Marie (my grandmother) was expecting, someone new showed up right on schedule—and stayed."🤭

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@bijouxbroussard In my case, the generations earlier than my grandparents never left Italy. I know names, but I know very little about them.

dontbekoi · 36-40, F

I have been doing some Ancestry research and found the women, in my family, died before their spouses (usually from contagious diseases that were easily spread inside factories or childbirth)

It's so depressing.

hartfire

How do you feel about that?
Does it trigger any thoughts about female-linked lifespan.
How about the epigenetics that can switch the genes on and off.
I would guess that you've probably done well looking after your health.
Is your husband or partner still with you?
Have you shared these thought with him?
What does he say?
What contingency plans might you make?

bijouxbroussard · F

@hartfire [quote] Is your husband or partner still with you?[/quote]
I said, initially, [quote] Of the female blood relatives on my maternal side, I’m the only widow.[/quote]

My grandmother and mother lived a long time, relatively speaking. My aunt had cancer. My great-grandmother, I recently found out, was diabetic, as am I. I’m trying to keep it under control, but it doesn’t bode well for my longevity.
I’m kind of on borrowed time in that regard. But we shall see.

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