Would you rather be in a traditional marriage or a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle forever?

Let's say you had to choose between being married to a spouse and raising kids in a "normal" setting, or living with a Dom just to serve them completely but in return you get maximum sexual pleasure and get taken care of. And yes I know it's possible to have a good mix of both but let's not get into loopholes. This is assuming all variables are ideal such as the spouse never divorcing or showing their true evil nature, and the Dom not being an abusive narcissistic sociopath that respects your consent and kinks.