My friend got offended when I told her I didn't like her purse? Why is she making a huge deal out of it? I was honest. She asked.

She wanted to show me a purse of Michelle Obama. She asked me do I think it's cute. I don't really like the Obama's much. I mean I don't care for them too much. Not because their black. I don't like Barack Obama because he wasn't a good president and he didn't make our country better. I told her, "Well I don't wanna sound rude, I don't like your purse. I don't really like Barack Obama. Plus Michelle Obama lunch program wasn't so good. She was like, "Oh...well....at least you're honest." She looked pissed but she asked me a question and I respectfully answers her question honestly.

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Why the fuck do you have to go into all that detail if you simply didn't like the purse? She's making a huge deal out of it because your reasoning has nothing to do with the purse itself but has everything to do with how you feel about the Obamas.

NotValid · 31-35, F

@SW-User So you're saying it's my fault?

SW-User

@NotValid Yes. Do you really consider her a friend? You took a simple question and turned it into a huge political issue. If you don't like the purse because it's not your style, just be polite and tell her although it's not your style, you hope she enjoys it. If you view her as a friend, you need to learn how to pick and choose your battles. Why create an argument over something as insignificant as her choice of accessories? There's no need to insult her taste based upon your own negative feelings about Michelle Obama. What you did to her wasn't honesty as you believe. It's passive aggressive behavior. It sounds as if you might be looking for an excuse to end your friendship.

NotValid · 31-35, F

@SW-User So I'm a bad friend?! Screw you!!!!! Why is that I'm being honest I get shit for it. My dad told me I was wrong for what I did and I made her upset about being political. He said, "You should have said it isn't your style but she likes it. That's all it matters. It's YOUR fault that she's getting an attitude because you had to act stupid. What the hell is wrong with you? Now she isn't going to want to talk to you." And he just walked off. That was harsh.

SW-User

@NotValid You posted about it & asked questions looking for responses. Furthermore, you asked me the question directly, and I answered. Sorry you don't like my response.

Evidently, your father is saying the same thing I did.

Don't ask people's opinions if you aren't open to an honest response & willing to consider you may have handled a situation wrong.

NotValid · 31-35, F

@SW-User I'm not trying to end the friendship with her! You're suppose to be on my side! Stop saying it isn't my fault.

SW-User

@NotValid Why am I supposed to "be on your side?" Is that what you want? Everyone to agree with you? That's not how life works.

Okay, so you want to keep her friendship. To do that, you don't create arguments over the small things. And that's exactly what you did. As your father and I both said to you, just tell her it's not your style and leave it at that.

NotValid · 31-35, F

@SW-User Ok ok. You're right! I was wrong. I did apologize to her. Happy now.

SW-User

@NotValid lol. It has nothing to do with my feelings about this. What matters is, are you happy now?

NotValid · 31-35, F

@SW-User No because I'm stupid