I Want to Be Positive About Life

I feel like in society you cant please anyone, if you love yourself your conceded or high maintenance,and if you have low self esteem your weak. I really have problems with this,I hate myself,I feel ugly. I tell myself I'm grate and beautiful and it never works, when I look in the mirror I feel ugly I feel like I'm lying to myself when I tell myself I'm grate. has anyone had this problem ?,I have been having it for years. I also really hate being single and having no close friends. how do I deal with this?

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SW-User

You're right when you say you can't please anyone but I've found if you focus on what you do well, whether you're an artist, lawyer, athlete, whatever.... you'll make your own path through life.
As far as physical looks go we are our own harshest critics especially when it comes to our looks. I personally can't look in the mirror longer than absolutely necessary, but I think you're probably better looking than you think.

It's easy for someone like me to say this because I don't know you but the bottom line is you're better than you think you are.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's not always easy to do.

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

oh no problem, for me its too easy because i just really need help like therapy or something because i dont feel like I see myself accurately and i need other people's perception to tell me who i am because people precevie me alot different then i preceive myself which makes me wonder what i am actually like. who is right? i just cant friends a friend of boyfriend people constantly are too busy or blow me off and i wonder whats wrong with me, i cant blame it on everyone in my area. so i overshare because i need someone to give me a solution or a plan so i can follow all the steps and become satisfied with my looks and personality.

SW-User

@Girlyfriendcollecting: I wouldn't worry about oversharing .
It's much better than things building up inside you.
Again thanks for sharing

FilthyBeast · M

@Girlyfriendcollecting: therapy is a great help, with the right therapist