I Want to Be Positive About Life

Is it normal (when a loved one has died) to feel a lot of anger?

I’m not angry at my mom. This wasn’t her fault. But I’m furious at cancer. Cancer is relentless. And I’m angry at fate, or God, or whatever decides these things are going to happen.

I’m angry that my dad has had his heart broken and been diminished by this loss.

I’m angry that my brother feels the burden of doing more family stuff, in general. (I don’t live near them - or I’d be doing more of it.)

I’m angry that my niece and nephew had to feel this loss.

I’m angry that the past 5 years, it’s been one damn thing after another. Not just for me, either. It seems like the whole world is going through bad times.

Anger is exhausting. But it does give me that push I need to do things.

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Carissimi · 70-79, F

Anger is one of the stages of grieving. They are not linear. I think it’s more than a stage of grief though because of all the trials and tribulations you have endured for so long. What you feel is normal, Kat, and like you, I find anger energized me to positive action when I was so depressed that I couldn’t move. Anger is not always negative, sometimes we need it to give us that push to go on, when we feel like the world around us is crumbling.