I remember a shocking conversation with my own younger sister. A man who fancied her gave her $5000 to help her get a place to live.

The understanding, she admitted, was to pay him back with monthly payments over two years. She did not make payment one or any others.

Her reasoning? “He knows me. He knew I wouldn’t pay him back. I can’t help it he’s stupid.”

They are very genuine more than anything to be honest!!!!

maybe they deserve it and others would misuse it eh? we all have limited time on earth.. why give it to people who may misuse it or give you grief? because there are people out there who give others hell and bad vibes and i tend to avoid those types for my own protection

if you want something in return for your "kindness" then that's attempted manipulation.. if you are kind to people because that's how you feel and are towards them then it's genuine.. even if others are envious that it's not directed to them.. maybe they are the ones with insincere agendas eh?

Selective kindness and compassion aren’t automatically fake; it depends on intent. If they come from genuine care and healthy boundaries, they’re real. If they’re used to control, impress, or get something in return, they lean toward manipulation. The difference is whether it’s rooted in values or in outcomes.

It’s not manipulative. We give because we want to. We are kind when the situation calls for all it.

But you don’t have to be “equally” kind to all. We don’t donate the same amount to charities we support. We don’t have to be the same super friendly attitude towards all our coworkers or neighbors.

What? You expect me to like everyone?

Not necessarily manipulative. Sometimes people connect differently with different individuals, and naturally show varying levels of warmth, comfort, or compassion.

Its just not wasting energy that i don't have.

Maybe it’s all I can afford.

Maybe the ones I refuse don’t actually want help, they don’t try to change.

There may be other reasons I don’t.

Bottom line is, kindness and compassion to some is better than none. IMO.

Could be in some instances. But I'd say it's more biased based on self interest and sometimes performative to be liked.

IF one were genuinely kind, not flattery or compliments, it wouldn't be a selective forethought, it would come more natural.

Hey dont accuse me of manipulation. Ive already heard that word enough this month.

Not everyone deserves such things, plus it would be spreading it pretty thin, making it hardly meaning anything.

Could just be you don’t like the other person. Idk

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No, I always give unconditionally, my mum was like that