Intent and Kindness
I’m working on being more intent and striving to do something for someone else every day. Even if it’s just something simple. I’m going to try to hold myself accountable here. Mostly, just because writing about these things makes you reflect on them which sort of trains your mind into setting new habits and thought patterns.
So, today….
It may sound extra simple, but I set my focus on trying to make my husband happy when he was stressed out today. He made some lame comment that I admit, I immediately took it personally…but then I put myself in his shoes and realized he was just feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Certain things trigger this “frustrated anger” from him. I’ve been with him long enough to recognize it and how to manage it. So, instead of demanding he explain himself and apologize, I just let it go in one ear and out the other. I did a couple things around the house I knew would help him feel calmer (clutter of any kind gives him major anxiety, but he’d never admit to having anxiety lol). I gave him some “tlc”. I went and got him a pie he’d been raving about. And tada-happiest, most loving guy in the world. He even surprised me by getting me a fountain soda when I’d asked on his way home tonight. Over a decade together, that’s about the only thing I ever ask him to grab and he NEVER does. Well he did tonight! So see, instant proof-kindness begets kindness.
Also, a friend asked me if I could take her to the airport Saturday. Honestly, if I wasn’t striving to do more for others I would’ve most likely said no. I’m hosting something here at home Saturday and I need to cook and get the house pristine. BUT, she’s always so good to me, and I genuinely do want to help her! I figured I can squeeze it in…maybe I can just try to do most of my stuff Friday to free up some time Saturday. I’m happy she’ll be able to rely on me. Mind you, airports give me major anxiety lol…but whatever. You don’t get over anything if you don’t just face it head on 😂
Oh, I also called a relative I haven’t talked to in a while. She’s been really going through a lot and she often uses me as an anchor during hard times. I haven’t been there for her as much as I should be recently. Honestly, I’m struggling to deal with my own stuff and I was getting too overwhelmed trying to juggle my own stuff and others, but I think I can handle more again. I feel bad because honestly I just don’t like dealing with other people’s stuff anymore. I deal with mine, alone. I’m a big girl 😜 BUT, we all need someone to lean on sometimes :) And I’d hate to not be there for someone when they really need me.
So, today….
It may sound extra simple, but I set my focus on trying to make my husband happy when he was stressed out today. He made some lame comment that I admit, I immediately took it personally…but then I put myself in his shoes and realized he was just feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Certain things trigger this “frustrated anger” from him. I’ve been with him long enough to recognize it and how to manage it. So, instead of demanding he explain himself and apologize, I just let it go in one ear and out the other. I did a couple things around the house I knew would help him feel calmer (clutter of any kind gives him major anxiety, but he’d never admit to having anxiety lol). I gave him some “tlc”. I went and got him a pie he’d been raving about. And tada-happiest, most loving guy in the world. He even surprised me by getting me a fountain soda when I’d asked on his way home tonight. Over a decade together, that’s about the only thing I ever ask him to grab and he NEVER does. Well he did tonight! So see, instant proof-kindness begets kindness.
Also, a friend asked me if I could take her to the airport Saturday. Honestly, if I wasn’t striving to do more for others I would’ve most likely said no. I’m hosting something here at home Saturday and I need to cook and get the house pristine. BUT, she’s always so good to me, and I genuinely do want to help her! I figured I can squeeze it in…maybe I can just try to do most of my stuff Friday to free up some time Saturday. I’m happy she’ll be able to rely on me. Mind you, airports give me major anxiety lol…but whatever. You don’t get over anything if you don’t just face it head on 😂
Oh, I also called a relative I haven’t talked to in a while. She’s been really going through a lot and she often uses me as an anchor during hard times. I haven’t been there for her as much as I should be recently. Honestly, I’m struggling to deal with my own stuff and I was getting too overwhelmed trying to juggle my own stuff and others, but I think I can handle more again. I feel bad because honestly I just don’t like dealing with other people’s stuff anymore. I deal with mine, alone. I’m a big girl 😜 BUT, we all need someone to lean on sometimes :) And I’d hate to not be there for someone when they really need me.
36-40, F
