Being kind gets a lot easier when you realize most people aren’t trying to be mean

they’re stressed, scared, tired, or just dealing with stuff they don’t know how to handle. What looks like a flaw in them is usually just what’s going on underneath.

The more you understand this, the less you judge and the more you respond with patience and boundaries instead of anger. Compassion does not excuse harm, but it helps you see the human being behind the mistake.

We all carry something. A little more understanding can change more than we realize.

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

That’s an amazing perspective and is true in some cases. I do think though that some people are indeed mean, and we should not make excuses for those. Dealing with stress and issues should not justify treating others badly. Especially if it is a pattern and not a one off incident.

mindstruggle

@BittersweetPotato
Absolutely, patootie! I agree with you. Stress or pain doesn’t justify treating others badly, especially when it’s a repeated pattern. Understanding why someone behaves a certain way isn’t the same as excusing it.

For me, it’s more about choosing how I respond, less judgment, more clarity, and firm boundaries when needed. Compassion and accountability can exist at the same time.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@mindstruggle Such a perfect frog 🥔🥴🥰🥔♥ 🐸