We all have ups and downs whether we show it or not.

I've been guilty of personalizing others struggles plenty of times, it can be difficult to witness. It can touch us in many ways. It can push at our insecurities and our boundaries.

But I have made a conscious effort to move passed that. I can hold space for people while they ebb and flow. I can be a gentle supporter, I can be a quiet listener.

But I make sure they know they are seen.

I don't think getting frustrated with people does anyone any good. Even if it comes from a caring place, don't kick em when they're down.

Tough love, comparing, avoidance, asking someone to be like you, it's all old ways of dealing with things that built generations of people who consider themselves strong. When in truth, they are kinda just short fused and uncaring. They kinda just take it personally and act annoyed by differences. It's more destructive than productive.

We don't live in that world anymore.

There are so many ways to get enough attention to pacify shallow needs.

When I see someone honest about their feelings, I see them doing the real work. I can cheer that on. There's no need to feel or react in annoyance because they aren't at their best.

Their struggles do not invalidate mine.

Them sharing doesn't invite competition for whose experience is worse.

I am growing from hurt.

I am growing up and out of the shadows.

The stormy winds only make me stronger.

So perceive me how you wish.

Water me or watch me.

But don't shroud me with judgments and rules.

That is not how strong trees grow.

And if you don't have space for me, know that I will rise and surpass that level of thinking.

My branches will spread and provide.

That's the life I am meant for.