Why do women who dress sexy complain about being objectified?

By dress sexy I am talking about shirts that expose nipples cleavage or belly, tight yoga pants or tight pants in general where we can see camel toe and panty lines and short shorts where the ass cheeks hang out and shorts so tight we can see the outline of the vulva and panties. Or dresses and skirts that go far north of the knee. Also clicking (loud) boots and high heels draw attention as well. I dont get why women would dress sexy but want to complain about guys focusing on their bodies instead of their mind. Are they just saying that because people are afraid that admitting to wanting attention would make people think they are slutty or do they actually believe men are capable of not being blinded by female beauty when its on full display?

For the record I do not believe nor am I calling for women to not dress sexy or the way they want. Just frustrated with their reactions to men they come across when they dress that way.

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Graylight · 51-55, F

Well, there are a couple of generalities going on here. The women who complain about being objectified are not always the ones dressing in an objectifying manner. There are plenty of women perfectly happy when being sexual objects.

But it comes down to this - while we all dress to impress or entice others at times, a person should be able to look the way they like and not automatically open themselves up to judgment.

The sidewalk is not a red carpet on which women walk so that men can offer their unsolicited judgments. The local Starbucks where you wait in line is not intended by most women to be a pick-up spot based on their hair, clothes, etcetera. A stoplight does not indicate speed dating time for a woman.

Sometimes, a woman simply wants to dress in a way that makes her feel alluring and confident. She should have that freedom without worry of remarks, propositions, violations or anything else.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Graylight spot on!
As i said before...even fat old frumps like me get that sort of attention from some men and i hardly invite it.

Graylight · 51-55, F

@RubySoo And you're not fat and frumpy.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Graylight ..lol..thank you.