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Things that personally annoy me about Brexit.

No. 145: the lack of people's willingness to respect or listen to the other side

I'm in a couple of WhatsApp groups where people talk politics. One of them is made up of friends I knew in London and its ultra hard remain. The other one is full of people who are ultra pro hard Brexit. On the remain group I'm seen as a 'Brexit apologist' and on the Brexit group I'm seen as a 'Remoaner'. I'm the same person in each group but each of them seem to occupy different universes and different realities.

I am a leftist and a remain voter but I'm a relative moderate on the Brexit issue. The Brexit issue somewhat cuts across the political spectrum anyway and its not always a strict left/right divide. For example, there are some socialists who want a hard Brexit and the most strident remain supporters are usually centrist liberals.

My position is that I would like Brexit cancelled but I respect the referendum result so I'm prepared to accept a soft Brexit. Of politically engaged people in my country, that is now a besieged minority view which gets attacked from both sides.

My problem with many hard remainers is that they refuse to accept the legitimacy of a referendum result in which our side lost. They think that there is a massive shift in public opinion to their side instead of a tiny one and that all Brexit supporters are stupid. They don't investigate the reasons why Brexit happened and they see it as a freak occurance against the natural order of things. Though leftists such as myself have long been criticised by those in the centre for such things as living in echoe chambers and not having a viable strategy, they have have ideas which could only be held by those who never engage outside their middle class London circle. In addition (and this is a particular issue of mine) they won't vote for a Labour government because they think Jeremy Corbyn is not pro remain enough. The probable result of this puritan centrism will be Boris Johnson as Prime Minister for five years and a hard Brexit.

Where hard remainers have no argument on the democratic mandate, hard leavers have no arguments on economics or logistics. They demand that what they voted for is carried out but they leave the details for how to do that to other people. Attempts to debate details with them are dismissed as 'project fear' - I.e. Political bias against their position which requires no other thought or consideration. They think the referendum result of 2015 gives them a mandate for a hard no deal Brexit when no such thing was actually debated then. If anyone won't let them have their cake and eat it then they are the enemy of the people.

I appreciate that I'm talking about the extreme forms of each position here and that plenty of people in each camp are not like this. I would one day like to merge these two WhatsApp groups so each could at least get an education as to what people in other parts of the country actually think.
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alan20 · M
As someone from NI, I wonder at the reasons for the desire to break from Europe in the first place. How much of it was down to personal ambition? After the history of the last few centuries, the EU seemed like an ideal that was working surprisingly well, against the odds. The different constituents of Europe can contribute so much to each other in terms of culture, human rights, the sheer enjoyment of life as a result of their diversity. Obviously having a trading alliance with our nearest neighbours is hugely beneficial vis-a-vis other large trading groups. Why are we throwing so much away?
Burnley123 · 41-45, M
@alan20 imo it's two things : political disillusionment and English nationalism.

What surprises me is that the DUP support the Tories and also supported Brexit. A hard Brexit would be worse for NI than anywhere and would also make a united Ireland more likely.
SW-User
@alan20 I blame the press to a large extent. I think there has always been a lot of antipathy to the EU because of the way it is presented. It's alway presented as some sort of separate entity, "Europe is telling us what to do", when in reality we are part of that process.

There are a lot of problems in areas of the UK and the EU has been positioned as a cause of these. I don't think leaving the EU will help the economic situation in my home town of Stoke-on-Trent for example.
alan20 · M
@Burnley123 The DUP is motivated more than anything by religious bigotry. There's a sense in which they want the conflict with the other side to continue - in their eyes it justifies their existence. Because of the lack of a Tory majority we've ended up with an absurd situation where the tale is wagging the dog.
Burnley123 · 41-45, M
@alan20 If there is a hard Brexit though, surely the DUP are screwed, right? These unionist farmers and factory workers will be pretty angry if the take a big hit, right?
SW-User
@alan20 What do you think of the UUP plans for an alternative to the backstop. I know the UUP have become something of an irrelevance in NI politics, but I havent seen any other alternative proposals from anyone.

BBC News - Brexit: UUP sets out Irish border backstop alternative plans
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-northern-ireland-49545492
alan20 · M
@Burnley123 They're not the most logical of outfits, inspired as they are by religious fundamentalism and emotional prejudice. When you have the reins of power and your supporters invariably vote in accordance with their ancestral conditioning, its amazing what you can get away with. I'm not denying the Catholics did little to improve matters down the years. The DUP are far more British than the English but its strictly their understanding of Britishness; absolutely no acceptance of abortion however essential or of anything gay. Its debatable whether their supporters would rear up in such a situation - especially if they could be persuaded that "the enemy" were suffering even more. Only a few years ago public toilets had to be kept closed in Belfast on the Sabbath, all sporting events were banned,etc. On the many days when they fly numerous flags, the Israeli flag flies alongside the Union Jack; they identify with Zionism. The founding father of this state described it as "a Protestant land for a Protestant people".
I'm coming across here as a rabid Nationalist which I'm not. I don't have much time for Catholicism either. The old saying about absolute power corrupting absolutely is very true.
alan20 · M
@SW-User I admit I haven't gone into this much. The "Unionist" part of the "Conservative and Unionist Party" refers of course to the Ulster Unionist Party who have always been enemies of the DUP. I'd say they're more open to the advice of business men.
SW-User
@alan20 I lived over there for 11 years and must admit I never had time for any of the parties with a U in tbe title.