What's the Attraction??

It's been awhile since I have wrote anything pertaining our fetish, or at least mine.

What is it exactly that is so attractive about power exchange? Is it the previous lack of control that is now being fulfilled? Is it the thrill or the challenge of taking a risk? Can it be the intensity of pleasure which can far exceed it’s vanilla counterpart? All of these reasons are true.


When a person becomes very attracted to another there is usually an inherent loss of critical thinking, a decrease or loss of conscious analysis. In a vanilla encounter this is often mutual and equally experienced by both parties. However, in a D/s encounter the dominant person is expected to maintain critical analysis of what is going on and thus be in control. Of course, in order to get to that state both people should have the good sense to employ critical thinking in order to establish ground rules. This is informed consent at it’s birth stage. As the connection between these two people progresses this informed consent and the boundaries it supports allow for the submissive to increase and maintain faith that the dominant is steering things safely and sanely. Finally, if and when a situation of complete and utter acceptance on the part of the sub is achieved the informed consent which was so crucial in forming this relationship in the first place is now the very glue which holds it together. The feelings a sub realizes from being controlled and the feelings a Dom/Domme realizes from being in control are strong and very concentrated, a beautiful symbiosis of power exchange which rests on a foundation of shared confidence.

Hey look this wasn't so long winded.