Punishment Or Pleasure
Sometimes I like to stir a bit of controversy. When my husband and I were in a FLR I got to thinking which sometimes is dangerous. Lol. But it did make sense to me. Although I know that I'm going to get some flack about it but that's alright I can handle it.
You’ve asked me to punish you whenever you do something that displeases me.
To be honest, that’s not a concept I can really grasp. Why wouldn’t you just do what I ask you to if you want to please me and if you really want me to be in charge? You’re an adult, so it seems as if you would stand up, be accountable and do what needs to be done.
Still, I understand that we don’t think the same way about things. You feel punishment is something you need – that it is necessary for me to control you. If that’s the case, then I will do that. After all, I agreed to meet you at least halfway as often as possible. Eventually, if I do this, I may better understand the differences in our needs and philosophies.
So, I will punish you. Whenever you do something that displeases me, first we will talk. You’ll explain what happened and then I will decide if punishment is warranted. If I determine it is, I will then withdraw from you the things you really enjoy. Until I decide it is time for the punishment to end, there will be no kinky play, no sex, no serving me in those fun and pleasurable ways. I will not say any of those little things that push your buttons in a super sexy way. I will do nothing to deliberately turn you on. It’s a shame, really, because you will also be robbing me of the pleasure of doing all those things. I’ll make do with things that aren’t you – a vibe or something similar – but you won’t be a part of it in any way.
Most of all, you will know how much you have disappointed me.
I know by refusing to spank you or in some other way physically punish you that I am flying in the face of “traditional” Femdom, but we both know on at least some level, you would enjoy that. To me, it’s not logical to give you what you want as a reward for disappointing me.
That doesn’t that mean spanking and other forms of kinky “punishment” are completely off the table – they’re simply reserved for a good boy who pleases me by doing his best.
You’ve asked me to punish you whenever you do something that displeases me.
To be honest, that’s not a concept I can really grasp. Why wouldn’t you just do what I ask you to if you want to please me and if you really want me to be in charge? You’re an adult, so it seems as if you would stand up, be accountable and do what needs to be done.
Still, I understand that we don’t think the same way about things. You feel punishment is something you need – that it is necessary for me to control you. If that’s the case, then I will do that. After all, I agreed to meet you at least halfway as often as possible. Eventually, if I do this, I may better understand the differences in our needs and philosophies.
So, I will punish you. Whenever you do something that displeases me, first we will talk. You’ll explain what happened and then I will decide if punishment is warranted. If I determine it is, I will then withdraw from you the things you really enjoy. Until I decide it is time for the punishment to end, there will be no kinky play, no sex, no serving me in those fun and pleasurable ways. I will not say any of those little things that push your buttons in a super sexy way. I will do nothing to deliberately turn you on. It’s a shame, really, because you will also be robbing me of the pleasure of doing all those things. I’ll make do with things that aren’t you – a vibe or something similar – but you won’t be a part of it in any way.
Most of all, you will know how much you have disappointed me.
I know by refusing to spank you or in some other way physically punish you that I am flying in the face of “traditional” Femdom, but we both know on at least some level, you would enjoy that. To me, it’s not logical to give you what you want as a reward for disappointing me.
That doesn’t that mean spanking and other forms of kinky “punishment” are completely off the table – they’re simply reserved for a good boy who pleases me by doing his best.
