Very insecure with my penis

I'm very much insecure about my body image. Ok here goes nothing and it's probably not going to be approved but I'm gonna try .

I am a grower not a shower . I am very little when flaccid ( I know , I know who cares about flaccid ) but I do and it's a body image issue I face . When im flaccid , im like 1 inch . A turtle sticking its head out of its shell. I have had chances to have sex but I turn it down because I'm embarrassed and it really drains on me . When I'm erect , I get to about 4 inches and this is also under the average size.

How many women have come across someone like me. What were your thoughts , were you disappointed when you first saw the man naked ?

This isn't about sex. It's about body image