Is it a kink now?

I used to live in Salt Lake and had a legit massage therapist finish me off when I visited her. I moved to Fort Collins and thought I might find the same, but the culture is really different. In Salt Lake there were ex-Mormons who fully liberated and were not sexually inhibited.

Now, I am a bit frustrated and find myself missing that experience. I don't want to visit Asian places due to the human trafficking issue and want a legitimate massage on a regular basis. Plus, I need a solid massage. I don't want GFE or anything oral. I suffer from chronic pain and super tight muscles. I do realize that massage therapists work really hard to obtain the clinical proficiency and have to worry about licensing. But I am also a lefty libertarian and don't see the harm in a happy ending. It's safe and it would fulfill this now intense fantasy. I would not expect this from anyone, nor pressure anyone, or even ask. So, maybe I found a one-off in Salt Lake. But it seems like there would be someone open-minded enough around.

It's sad that we live in a country that bills itself as "free" but won't allow tow adults to decide what is best for them. Now, I feel like I have a kink for this. It is frustrating. Her and I were friends who socialized for 22 years. We're still friends. How is that bad? It seems like just a matter to be decided by individuals. Again, I respect the clinical prowess and hard work that got someone that kind of skill. I simply wish there were exceptions sometimes.

I think I have developed a kink. 🤷‍♂

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Docdon23 · M

great to read this, and I agree with everything you say. I have been going to tantra providers (or tantrikas) as they are euphemistically called for over 15 years. This is not a kink--it is a basic human need. I now actually teach tantra with my new partner (my wife passed away four years ago) and attend tantra retreats and more. I can help you find someone to give you tantra sessions.

Joz08 · 46-50, MVIP

@Docdon23 I think $1k is a lot. I was getting a 90 minute massage for 150 and I gave her a $100 tip. I guess 300 after tip would be OK for me. Fort Collins is not a super expensive town like Boulder.

Joz08 · 46-50, MVIP

And practice makes perfect.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

Help me understand something...
You don't want to go to an Asian place because of the possibility of human trafficking and your morals won't accept that.
But having an ex Mormon who has to work jerking guys off , finishing you off, it's ok.
Yes?

Joz08 · 46-50, MVIP

@CurrentName yep. But that's an over simplified view. She offered, I accepted and we did that for years :)

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@Joz08
I get you.

Joz08 · 46-50, MVIP

Interesting loophole! I'd be down for that lol

Benjr134 · M

As long as you record it and then sell it, it’s not prostitution. Lol. For me what happens between 2 consenting adults is between them.

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Benjr134 · M

@Joz08 exactly. It’s better to teach and educate.

I should mention that I don’t condone sexual activity amongst children but I’d rather people be comfortable talking to people if they don’t understand.

Joz08 · 46-50, MVIP

@Benjr134 yes, that goes without saying. But education is important.

Benjr134 · M

@Joz08 exactly. Plus like I said earlier, what happens between 2 consenting adults shouldn’t matter with the law.

BohoBabe · M

I think it's so insane that adults can't legally do what they want with their own bodies.
What makes it even weirder is that porn is legal. So it's illegal to pay someone to give you a massage with a happy ending, unless you film it and then sell the film.

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BohoBabe · M

@CurrentName They should be. But we have bizarrely inconsistent laws when it comes to sex work.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@BohoBabe
I understand that. Having a non regulated sex parlor is like ordering food from somewhere that doesn't ever had to pass health inpections

BohoBabe · M

@CurrentName Yeah, that's why street corner prostitution should be banned, but America should have regulated brothels like in Germany.

BiasForAction · M

Sounds like a legitimate opportunity for an entrepreneur if it is legal. It it isn’t legal, then you’ll have to find a black market.

Joz08 · 46-50, MVIP

@BiasForAction It's prob a grey area. If it is just between two people who cares? I don't see it as a business opportunity though. It just sucks to have a kink that cannot be satisfied I guess. Thanks for your thoughts though.

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