Do any women here read wife sharing stories?

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Letting your wife sleep with other men is sick.

I don't see how you could let someone you love be sexual with another man.

If she is going to sleep with other men what is to keep her from leaving you for one of them?

If she really loved you she wouldn't do it.

I may not fully understand what it is to really love someone

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I remember from a while ago seeing a lot of women with an extreme dis-like for the wife sharing topic.

What exactly is it about wife sharing that, it seems to me to be, most women don't find appealing?

If you don't feel comfortable answering here in the comments I would like you to PM with your thoughts.
Not so we can argue about it, I am just really intrigued with the amount of women that are objectionable to it.

I am open to hear, read, all opinions from guys or gals that object to wife sharing.
Like I say, not so I can argue with you.

I think people are misinformed for the most part about what it actually is, in part because of mainstream porn distorting what it actually is.

But I would genuinely like to understand from both male and female but mostly the females.

Thanks and please don't be shy and rest assured I am not attempting to convert any one. :-)

I added the poll so those who just want to give an opinion and not have to respond can be included as well.

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laurieluvsit · 31-35, F

Your Poll choices only allow for negative responses.

I was raised with Swinger Parents where partner and wife swapping is considered quite normal and not negative at all.

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laurieluvsit · 31-35, F

@VeronicaJane
Let's just say they weren't 'Secretive' about it.

VeronicaJane

@laurieluvsit were you a teenager when you figured it out? Did you ever ask them about it?

laurieluvsit · 31-35, F

@VeronicaJane
Best not to expound on my previous answer.

VeronicaJane

Culturally, the expectation is monogamy. Now there are women and men who will cheat for a variety of reasons. Some find it erotic to be doing so while the spouse is unaware. Some feel the need, but feel guilty. Some feel that what you don't know, won't hurt you.

Many find it awkward to tell their spouse they are perhaps unsatisfied or feel the need. There is a certain amount of security in a marriage, and many women's first thoughts might be does he want to offer this, so that he could then play with other women? Some don't want to address it because they don't want to risk disrupting, or losing, what otherwise may be an arrangement they find security in.

If a man or woman feels the need, its best to discuss and agree to whats acceptable and what's out of bounds. Its great if the feeling is mutual. Many won't want to bring the topic up out of fear that it will end their relationship (...as if cheating wouldn't when finally caught.)

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VeronicaJane

@MikeHurts I think it would be fair to say most women, when faced with this prospect, would suspect that they would be concerned Ithe men would use her activities to attempt to open the door for them to do the same.

I don't know, but it might be a interesting poll to see how many men would want to be monogamous, but share their wife. 🤔

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MikeHurts · 56-60, M

@VeronicaJane I think that most men offering their wife this type of freedom would probably be doing it with ulterior motives.
At least that has been my experience but not directly.
I guess I am trying to say I know how most men think. LOL

MikeHurts · 56-60, M

I do see where someone voted in my, relatively negative, poll that if she is going to sleep with other men then what is to keep her from leaving you for one of them?

I was kind of hoping to be able to address that.

Fidelity is self regulated.
Only you can make you be faithful.
This isn't affected by having an arrangement to openly explore sex with another.
If my wife was intimate with another with out my knowledge it would have the same effect ultimately.

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MikeHurts · 56-60, M

@SomeMichGuy Wow. That was a detailed analysis and pretty spot on.
Our programing is a huge part of all our decisions. We are all victims of our environment.
I myself like to chase these roots to see why I do what I do and think.
My backstory pretty much placed me in the category of wife sharing but not for many years of thinking I needed the other type of relationship.
I never became quit so confident and secure until the wife sharing became a thing.
That followed by many, many years of chasing and obsessing over the opposite.

Even though these stories may appear, on the surface, as a how to, they are actually a funny realization I had after many years of struggle.

I would be most interested in hearing more about "me ignoring constraints". Not to argue but to gain more insight.
:-)

Panamared · 70-79, M

Why no positive options

MikeHurts · 56-60, M

@Panamared I seriously didn't realize I only put bad stuff in the poll.
I didn't expect many positive reply's in all honesty and so I guess I subconsciously
I was setting myself up for the negative.

Maybe I wasn't quit awake when I wrote this. ???
Na just me being dumb.
Thank you for pointing that out. :-)

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