@SW-User Ow! I feel your pain! I find my wife doesn't always enjoy sex 'fully' and therefore I sometimes find I need 'something more' when she holds back; So, I enjoyed a friend the other day and she enjoyed me. My wife and I will try to enjoy each other tonight. My greatest pleasure is from kisses and caresses and looking into my partner's eyes - getting joy from giving pleasure, but I let my partner lead me to wherever they wish to be. Perhaps you are trying too hard to please your partner or are having the expectation of an orgasm without just enjoying what your partner is trying to do for you? (just suggestions). Another suggestion: Before my friend and I started with actual intercourse, for several months (sessions weeks apart), we just enjoyed the 'lust' of being with someone 'different' and the variations in kissing and caressing that we gave each other. She had been 15 years without a sexual partner and was very timid at first. is your partner kind and loving toward you - you call yourself "Barbarossa's" spouse. Loving should suit both people - it's a shared experience!
