Another TMI but I feel like it's worth it 100%; I had my first orgasm during sex! :D
Which that sounds weird but all the times I have done it, it's been painful, lead to bleeding, and have been unconsensual to a huge degree. Other times I would have to lie to spare the dude's ego. I considered giving up.
No more now! After half a year of trying to get myself to relax, going to therapy for sexual assault, working on body image, and battling flashbacks, I have managed. For the first time...to have an orgasm while with a partner.
It took like a lot of practice and work, and still a work in progress. It's been a long long long journey to even get to this point. I think for the most part I used to try too hard, which I later found out relaxing is NOT about.
It helps to have someone who doesn't take your erectile dysfunction personal. I don't feel the need to feel like my orgasm is about him. It's about my own pleasure for once, which is also something that needed work. Learning to put myself first a little bit.
No more now! After half a year of trying to get myself to relax, going to therapy for sexual assault, working on body image, and battling flashbacks, I have managed. For the first time...to have an orgasm while with a partner.
It took like a lot of practice and work, and still a work in progress. It's been a long long long journey to even get to this point. I think for the most part I used to try too hard, which I later found out relaxing is NOT about.
It helps to have someone who doesn't take your erectile dysfunction personal. I don't feel the need to feel like my orgasm is about him. It's about my own pleasure for once, which is also something that needed work. Learning to put myself first a little bit.
