Girl Crush — Little Big Town

@SW-User I mean sure. That was pretty much me.


I'm not against those songs. I'm more just disappointed that they ended up not being as queer as they first seemed. But do I remember the exact moment I first heard that Katy Perry song? And when my breathing got shallow? And when my heartbeat sped up? Oh hell yes.

@ShadowSister I was living openly gay (bisexual, I thought at the time) by 19 for sure… so that was 27 years ago and I came out to my parents (so full public) at 22, so that was 24 years ago. I’ve been living as gay and juggling that with guys (at the time,) for a long time. So… yeah I’m not really heterophopic, and also where I live is like 99% straight. Ha ha. So it’s like, I have to deal with it. Plus as a musician, but most importantly an artist (I write my own stuff,) I can feel their journey. As long as it’s not all misogynistic or degrading to women, I’m pretty much good. This also probably taps into the full me, as even though sexually I’m definitely homosexual… from a romance standpoint, I am kind of Demi-sexual and that could go for men or women, even though it would be dumb because I’d literally never want to have sex with the dude. I actually spent 3 years in a relationship like that with Jacob. Total cool guy and I will always love him but sex was total chore and almost impossible for me. I don’t know why he put up with my never wanting to, frigid ass… but I guess we both just loved each other. I guess I’m just saying that I get the romance stuff to a guy, but when it’s a song that more sexual to a guy… that totally loses me because I don’t feel that way towards guys at all. Yeah, I’m even more weird then you though. Imma just shut up now. lol

@JustGoneNow I think the kids these days would say your sexual orientation is lesbian, but your romantic orientation is bi-romantic. But all the youngsters who say that also insist that you get to pick your own labels and then define them according to how they best fit you.

I guess I've never really thought about it, but I think my romantic orientation is exclusively towards woman, but sexually I am maybe a bit more fluid. I can function with a guy, but it's usually just girls that make the sparks fly. The only guy I ever dated started off as my girlfriend. (Cue the music: "Somebody told me that you had a boyfriend who looked like a girlfriend that I had in February of last year...") And that didn't work because, well, I suppose because I'm not romantically attracted to guys.


The contrast with the current you is jarring. It's like you're talking about an entirely different person lol.

But yeah, this conversation is actually really helpful for me to figure out why I never resonate with straight love songs or straight movies even when my other queer friends might. And also why I find such a refuge in queer community that others maybe don't need as much.

@sarabee1995 I love you. 🖤🖤🖤