I noticed something tonight that has me a bit concerned.

Twice since I've been logged in women have commented to me that they are, "Ugly" It angers me that industry marketing has created the false idea that beauty has so much value and importance, I don't know if it's just the fashion/makeup industry that has created this myth. Probably a number of different venues. Regardless, it's an untruth and it's hurting women self- confidence, self- esteem and a poor self- image.

Truth is, I know many handsome men who adore their chubby, homely wives/girlfriends. My own best friend
is homely as a mud fence but to me she is beautiful.

I wish they would start classes in High School to teach REAL important values. Women should embrace WHO they are not what they look like. This is not a trivial matter. Some suffer severe depression not to mention other factors that cause them to have a sense of less value than very attractive "Looks" Okay, soapbox is over.

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

I agree with this but it goes the same way for men too. Why do you have a picture of a very attractive man in your profile photo that I don’t believe is you? You catch more bees with honey?

Grateful4you · M

@iamonfire696 Actually, I did consider addressing both men and women but since the complaints to me were both from women I just addressed them specifically. You're right about the photo, It's fake.

In truth, I'm actually 4ft. tall, morbidly obese, I have one eye that is covered by a white, milky film. A very large, hairy wart on my nose and a very pronounced harelip. I have the IQ of about 60 and the attention span of a flea. Sorry for the deception. Best Regards, David.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Grateful4you I just found it ironic in what you were saying to which I fully agree but have this picture of a very good looking man. Beauty standards go both ways. It leads to people feeling like they are less than they actually are. It also gives some people a sense of entitlement as to what kind of man or woman that is worthy of them because they are trying to fit them into this societal mold that has been created.

I wasn’t trying to offend you. Another post in the last day had a picture of a naked woman who was curvy and beautiful and some of the comments on it, made me sad. They were calling her a cow.

Grateful4you · M

@iamonfire696 That is just horrible! Name- calling is forbidden and should be reported. I'm just an ordinary man and yes, once regarded as handsome but I never took it seriously. Compliments actually embarrass me. I try to deflect them. I appreciate your taking the time to explain the flaws in my post. Last night was very traumatic as one of our members was threatening suicide and did in fact seriously cut herself.

Most of us here try to be supportive of folks having serious personal issues. I look forward to hearing from you again. Sincerely, David.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Grateful4you I saw that. She is a friend and I am worried about her.

Your post isn’t flawed, it’s all true. I just thought it was ironic with your picture. I have seen a few specific posts where women have been told they are ugly. It’s cruel. I was told by a user on one of my posts with a picture of me on it that I needed to lose weight. If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing.

Grateful4you · M

@iamonfire696 I fully agree with that. People have no idea the damage they are doing or probably could care less. I try my best but sometimes my goofy sense of humor doesn't go over well.

Have a great rest of the week, I probably won't be around again until August.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Grateful4you they have no idea. Have a lovely week.