It's not what you may think it is

It's friends who show up for you
It's consistency
It's mutual effort
It's apologizing when needed on both sides ..moving forward together and growing together


It isn't


Butterflies in your stomach

It isn't pretending to be the " cool girl/guy* when they disrespect and hurt you then pretending it didn't hurt.

It isn't allowing yourself to shrink when others cross your boundaries just to keep them in your life

It isn't tolerating behavior that you wouldn't normally just to keep them in your life

It is being true to yourself

If they go
Let them go and wish them well and move on