Thoughts on Soulmates

A soulmate is someone who is similar to you recreationally, but different productively.

This is because your appreciation will lead to the same goals, but when working towards them, you’ll make up for what the other lacks.

The love of chemistry is the former, and the attraction of compatibility is the latter.

You find your soul in the relation of friends, but you find your mate in the contrast of partners. When the two come together, that’s when you have a soulmate.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

Eh.. sounds like an over complication of meaningful connections that puts people on iconic pedestals. The pedestals become idolized, which disrupts seeing someone for who they really are and interferes with other meaningful connections. What you get is a hot mess of conflicting messages inside the mind and heart that grasps for rationalizations why the Reality and ideal aren’t aligning when it would’ve been far simpler to not put people on a pillar to begin with.

Reject · 31-35, M

@WhateverWorks Sure, but I don’t see any idolizing in my post.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I mainly meant the idea of soulmates in general,
But even within your post there’s this person who when they seemingly meet a challenging standard ( to mirror you recreationally, but be your opposite also with productivity in a Yin Yang sort of way) is given the pedestal of soulmate. Then the idea gets divided up again into more obtainable, lesser bites and only to be rejoined as a ‘next level’ companionship where they are expected to be the soul and the mate, which implies that if at any time they cease to mirror the recreational or be the productivity yin then they cease to be of special soulmate status.

@Reject

Reject · 31-35, M

@WhateverWorks Being the same recreationally means you both can enjoy the same activities outsides of work. This does not mean you must be the same in every single way. I never said that. The same for productivity. I’m not saying they need to be the opposite in every single way, but in whatever ways that help you both reach goals. What’s strange is how extreme you’re making things. Of course if you think black and white nothing is going to make sense.

Reject · 31-35, M

@WhateverWorks You have inspired me. I will make a few minor changes in the wording so that people can have a clearer idea of what I mean. I didn’t think that needed to be specified, but you’ve shown me it has, so thanks for that.