I Am Craving Physical Contact

OK, so I'm 56 years old and have been married for nearly 35 years. Problem is, the last 10 years of my union with my dear wife have been almost entirely devoid of intimate contact. The last 6 years has been a complete dry spell.

I have tried talking with her about this but it pretty much always comes back to her same response: "I'm sorry, but I'm just not interested in that anymore." It is frustrating because she just does not seem to want to even try to make it any better.

I guess I could understand her disinterest if I were hateful or abusive or a slovenly couch potato type, but I have worked very hard to take care of myself. And I more than hold up my end when it comes to the day-to-day stuff around home. I feel very much unappreciated but I'm afraid I'm way too old to consider divorce.

Anybody got any suggestions?

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nevergiveup · M

life is to short. sit down and talk to her about how you feel. Then if things dont change leave

PoetryNEmotion · F

@nevergiveup Best answer in my opinion. Life IS short. Why spend it being unhappy because one person doesn't want to be intimate and to love you like one should? People rarely change. Watch for red flags. And make your heart and your head happy. Enjoy being loved OR discover that freedom will lead you on a happier road. And open your heart again to love.

nevergiveup · M

@PoetryNEmotion IT WORKED FOR ME

PoetryNEmotion · F

@nevergiveup Then you are one in a million. Good for you. Refusers are not known to change. They are selfish people who mostly care on what pleases them. How a person can cut off intimacy to another they claim to love is heinous. Good day.

nevergiveup · M

@PoetryNEmotion I sat down and talked to her and told her all my feelings. She said she cared about me but did not love me any more. She kissed me and we went to bed. I was like making love to a blow up doll there was no feelings or wanting she did not even cum. i left 2 days latter

PoetryNEmotion · F

@nevergiveup I am glad that you left her. One shouldn't stay with someone who doesn't love them nor with someone who just lays there without emotion or feeling. Freedom is the best thing. After you work on yourself and your happiness, you can open your heart to a love that is better. Good fortune to you.