riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
You we're afraid to let your gaurd down when you first met her and also if you left your gaurd down you we're afraid of being hurt and that's why you lied .
You we're trying to impress her cause you loved and sometimes in life being yourself you find real friends or partners .
Your on your own now and you said she was the first person that loved and cared about.
If I was you I'd explain the story cause all that was wrong with you was fear of being hurt and with you lying your the one who ended up getting hurt .
Tell her the story .
Success has nothing to do with a good person and or a real person my friend.
It could be the best thing that happened you being at home again .
I'm gonna tell you a story .
I was with a person before and she was trying to sort out the relationship by going away . I flew to the other side of the world with her to sort it out . She lied to me before we went away . I ignored it and went away with her to sort it out .
I was living her dreams and not my own .
I was left shattered for a few years cause when I came back to we're I was after 5 days and it was supposed to be a year to sort it , it never worked out cause the trust got broken . It was toxic relationship towards the end for one word or another , the word honesty it never worked out . If she was honest it would of being sorted out cause I wouldn't of flying half way around the world to make it work out .
Relationships my friend are the most head fuck out of everything . You be left with no soul when things go wrong and full of fear for the future.
I'm alone now 15 years and that's by choice cause I didn't id could through another pain again . I won't go through the pain I went through at that level again but it took me a lot of time on my own to be we're I am today .
You'll find someone again my friend but don't bring image as in success to a relationship that destroys relationships even more .
Success has nothing to do with love in both parts my friend . Be yourself 😊
You we're trying to impress her cause you loved and sometimes in life being yourself you find real friends or partners .
Your on your own now and you said she was the first person that loved and cared about.
If I was you I'd explain the story cause all that was wrong with you was fear of being hurt and with you lying your the one who ended up getting hurt .
Tell her the story .
Success has nothing to do with a good person and or a real person my friend.
It could be the best thing that happened you being at home again .
I'm gonna tell you a story .
I was with a person before and she was trying to sort out the relationship by going away . I flew to the other side of the world with her to sort it out . She lied to me before we went away . I ignored it and went away with her to sort it out .
I was living her dreams and not my own .
I was left shattered for a few years cause when I came back to we're I was after 5 days and it was supposed to be a year to sort it , it never worked out cause the trust got broken . It was toxic relationship towards the end for one word or another , the word honesty it never worked out . If she was honest it would of being sorted out cause I wouldn't of flying half way around the world to make it work out .
Relationships my friend are the most head fuck out of everything . You be left with no soul when things go wrong and full of fear for the future.
I'm alone now 15 years and that's by choice cause I didn't id could through another pain again . I won't go through the pain I went through at that level again but it took me a lot of time on my own to be we're I am today .
You'll find someone again my friend but don't bring image as in success to a relationship that destroys relationships even more .
Success has nothing to do with love in both parts my friend . Be yourself 😊
Lee2025 · 31-35, F
@riseofthemachine thank you 😊
But i dont want to find someone else just as yet. If her and i dont reconcile il stay single. I dont want to try with someone knew. I met someone great and i ruined it. It will take time to heal from this... maybe even a lifetime
But i dont want to find someone else just as yet. If her and i dont reconcile il stay single. I dont want to try with someone knew. I met someone great and i ruined it. It will take time to heal from this... maybe even a lifetime
I think you mean this post. I honestly don't have advice, there's no way through heartbreak without feeling broken, and for what I learned with her, I'd rather have the heartbreak and broken parts because somehow I know how when I fell in love with her if I wrote her tomorrow she would respond. As I would respond if she wrote me.
But that is years of healing, having someone you love you don't need to hear from to know how intimate you are together. I'm on the other side of torment and able to see love without regret.
But that is years of healing, having someone you love you don't need to hear from to know how intimate you are together. I'm on the other side of torment and able to see love without regret.
Lee2025 · 31-35, F
@Lee2025 Somewhere it lies within without regret, as love should never be regretted, and how you find that is only inside you and her.
From my perspective, it sounds to me that she was also in it for the money, so when she found out the truth that really hurt her, she wasted all that time working you.
This sounds like something you should turn into a regular thing, string them along thinking you are rich and later tell them the truth, a real relationship will survive, a shell will disintegrate.
This sounds like something you should turn into a regular thing, string them along thinking you are rich and later tell them the truth, a real relationship will survive, a shell will disintegrate.
Lee2025 · 31-35, F
@JamesBugman lol i hear you. I dont ever want to decieve anyone again, i lost someone who loved me.
And no she wasnt in it for anything else but to love me. She was never interested in my stories of my former life. It bored her.
She loved me for me and showed it. What broke her is the fact that she was transparent and honest about her self and her life. She lives a very simple life and is happy with that. She isnt a materialistic person. She prefer thoughtful guesture over expensive gifts, but she will go all out for me. I know in my heart and by her actions that shes a good person and only wanted to love.
And no she wasnt in it for anything else but to love me. She was never interested in my stories of my former life. It bored her.
She loved me for me and showed it. What broke her is the fact that she was transparent and honest about her self and her life. She lives a very simple life and is happy with that. She isnt a materialistic person. She prefer thoughtful guesture over expensive gifts, but she will go all out for me. I know in my heart and by her actions that shes a good person and only wanted to love.
If you truly want to respect her decision, might it not be better to cut off contact? Doesn’t sound like just being friends is gonna work for either one of you.
Lee2025 · 31-35, F
@OlderSometimesWiser its hard to when I still love her. I hear you.
More than anything I pray for her healing... and if possible to rebuild our relationship. I dont believe this is the end of our story.
More than anything I pray for her healing... and if possible to rebuild our relationship. I dont believe this is the end of our story.
496sbc · 36-40, M
Thats sad hun wow. I feel bad for u but u should have never lied to her. But now u see it
WowwGirl · 36-40, F
Learn from your mistakes
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Tenletters · 31-35, M
Sounds like a lie
Tenletters · 31-35, M
@Lee2025 joking again see
Lee2025 · 31-35, F
@Tenletters do you joke with a straight face?
Tenletters · 31-35, M
@Lee2025 most times
Bumbles · 51-55, M
Why did you lose everything? Something is off about you. What kind of an adult loses “everything” and then lies about it.
Lee2025 · 31-35, F
@Bumbles unfortunately im not here to convince you or anyone else. I made a mistake and i feel terribly bad for my actions. Your opinion of me wont phase me.
The deal went bad because I trusted the wrong people and there wasnt sufficient evidence to support my case. Again at this point i had nothing, i couldnt afford to fight it.
This is my last response to you... think what you want of me , it doesnt change my reality or who i am.
Have a great evening and do take care of yourself.
The deal went bad because I trusted the wrong people and there wasnt sufficient evidence to support my case. Again at this point i had nothing, i couldnt afford to fight it.
This is my last response to you... think what you want of me , it doesnt change my reality or who i am.
Have a great evening and do take care of yourself.