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I am damaged, but not yet broken

My son died this past April. My wife left me last week after telling me that she did not feel my son's death, and so acted as if I had not lost a son. She is not allowing me to have any contact with our two minor children. I am hurt. I am damaged. I cry sometimes, even though many view a man's crying as a sign of weakness. That is okay. I am weak just now. I am confused and I am discouraged. I don't have much hope right now and I am afraid I am losing my faith. But through all of these things, and for the past six years, I have held onto my sobriety. I have not relapsed and drank. I am damaged and I am isolated and have no one to talk with. But, I am not broken. Damaged, but not broken. Somehow, at some point, I will begin to heal again, and I will see those things that make me a special, caring, loving human being, those things my wife chooses not to see -- those things she has convinced our children do not exist within me.
Some day, someone will come into my life who will see those traits that I know are there, but cannot right now see. I believe this. I have to believe this.
RedBaron · M
I don’t know anybody who thinks crying is a sign of weakness. That’s a crock.
OTKDad · 51-55, M
I'm so sorry for your loss.

If you are a man and you live in the US, you have every right to see your minor children as their mother does. Get yourself a good attorney ASAP and start spending as much time as you can with those kids. They need you! I divorced my wife seven years ago. I had three minor children. I received full custody of my children she paid me child support. Men have rights too. Don't hesitate, get an attorney ASAP so you can start seeing your kids again. If you need a friend who knows the ropes, message me any time. BTW This brings back some bad memories and is making me cry. I cant stand seeing a mother keeping her children from their father!
Trekker · 51-55, M
People hurt and grieve in different ways. It's okay to be you.

My ex thought men crying was a sign of weakness. She would dig her fingers into that. Until it was our son crying. Then she would admit she was wrong.

Be you, do you. Patch the holes and be the person you want to be.
originnone · 61-69, M
....sorry, dude....I truly am...It's a hard story to read, let alone live...
SW-User
@originnone Just as I feel.
L A W Y E R U P
ASAP
TimeStandingStill · 46-50, F
I am so sorry for your loss. You are most certainly allowed to grieve. Your loss is unimaginable but please fight for the rest of your children. I do not know your circumstances but all you can do know is worry about the future.
Neoerectus · M
A judge will decide on the minor contact. Some people like to pretend about traumatic things. Also. she may simply lack compassion. Fight for kids' contact, but realize you may be better without her.
Umm... Hell no!!! You fight to see those kiddos!!! She has no right to take that from you for no reason!!! 😡😡😡
SlaveEt · 36-40, F
You are correct in your belief. May your stormy skies part and the sun shine through sooner than later.
SW-User
Stay strong. Expressing yourself here has made you stronger.

Sorry, I can say no more. All the best.
My condolences!

May The True North inspire you, realign To selflove.

Stay strong and free.
Uncfred · 61-69, M
My wife died in February, I still have wet eyes most nights, or when I am reminded.
Lilnonames · F
I'm sorry I hope things work out for the better

 
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