Some of you may recall that I’ve mentioned over the years I’ve been here that I was engaged to a guy from Texas back from around 1992-1997. The most amazing human being on the planet. It was a long distance relationship, before either of us had internet, and as much as we wanted it to work, it didn’t. The distance was too much ( I live in the Toronto area).
We married other people but kept in touch by phone a few times a year and talked about our kids and families. Our kids were all the same age. He had four and I had four more, all within a few months of each other
In 2015 my job took me to another city and I lost his number and I had a new work number and we lost contact. I never felt comfortable contacting him through social media and I think he felt the same. That being said, I haven’t spoken to him in well over a decade although I do check out his social media profiles once in a while and found out he had a stroke in 2022.
I took yesterday off work and this morning I came into the office and have a voicemail message from him. He said it’s a ghost from the past and after listening to the message twice, I know it’s him. He wants me to call him.
Would he have been able to tell I looked at his Facebook:instagram pages a few times?
I’m going to call him. I just need to wait to let this all sink in. So much time has passed I’m worried he’s going to tell me he’s dying. I’ve had two friends here in my area and two family members die in the past three years.
@Jenny1234 2 years ago, I had to face a similar situation. I so wanted to meet him and again and ask questions I thought I needed answers for.
I told my husband about it and asked that he understood where i was coming from. I’m glad he was ok with it. I met this very significant ex for coffee. Then the week after, I arranged a lunch where I could introduce him to the husband. It was all good.
We still say hello and update each other with life happenings. And we both found closure that has been pending for 23 years.
I wrote about it here, I’ll share the link with you if you’re interested to read the story.
Someone can't see that you've looked at their Instagram or Facebook profile. The only exception on Instagram is if you viewed one of their stories they can see who viewed those for a limited time. Just visiting their profile or looking at their posts doesn't notify them.
And please don't assume the worst It could simply be that he was thinking about you, wanted to reconnect after all these years, or wanted to catch up on life. I hope that's all it is. Wishing you the best when you call him, and I hope it's a conversation that brings you both some happiness and peace. Oh and keep us updated 😊
awww maybe it's not such dire news tho? i'm sure just having a health scare made him reevaluate his life and priorities and to know his mortality so he's saying hi before he loses his chance .. anyway hope you have a nice conversation again ☺
1) Are you still married? 2) Do you harbor ANY romantic feelings for the ghost?
If both are "yes" then I would just leave everything as it is. Don't complicate your live. If either question is a no, then sure reach out and see how your old friend is doing. :)
@Jenny1234 Then reach out. If it were me, I would clarify with him that you're reaching out only as a friend. Guys seem more often than not to need that clarity. 🤷♀
