The best way...50 signs of interest
The best way to find out if a girl is interested in you without taking any risks yourself is to observe whether she shows any signs of interest. Signs of interest are various behaviors that girls unconsciously display when they’re attracted to you.
Here is a list of the most common and important signs to help you figure out whether she’s interested or not.
Body Language
If her body language changes when she’s near you, it’s a clear sign that she’s attracted to you. Here are a few things to look out for:
1. She pulls her arms back and pushes her chest out
2. She moves in time with the music in the background while looking at you
3. She straightens up when she gets your attention or is near you
4. Her body is facing you
5. Her feet are pointing toward you
6. She mirrors your posture and body language; for example, if you lean to the side or run your hand through your hair, she’ll do the same, either immediately or shortly afterward
7. She leans toward you or enters your personal space
The Mouth and Lips
The lips and mouth are incredibly closely linked to intimacy and sensuality. When a girl is attracted to someone, it often shows in the way she unconsciously touches or licks her lips. Look for signs such as:
The girl bites her lip
8. She lightly bites her lip
9. She smiles
10. She licks her lips or teeth
11. She pouts and/or applies lipstick or lip balm while looking at you
The Eyes
The eyes are the window to the soul—it’s basically impossible to hide or control your eye movements or the size of your pupils. Dare to look her in the eyes and see what you find. Perhaps one of the following signs:
12. She blinks unusually often
13. Her pupils get extra large when you’re talking
14. If you make eye contact from a distance, she holds it a second longer than usual
15. She maintains eye contact with a slight smile
16. She breaks eye contact by looking down
Hair
Women’s hair is also strongly associated with sexuality (hence the use of veils in many cultures). If you notice that she’s playing with her hair or otherwise unconsciously drawing your attention to it, these can be clear signs of interest.
17. She plays with her hair
18. She tosses her hair back over her shoulders
19. She runs her fingers through her hair
17. She plays with her hair
18. She tosses her hair back over her shoulders
19. She runs her fingers through her hair
Clothing
If she’s interested in you, she naturally wants to look her best around you. Starting to adjust her clothes could be because of that, or it might be an automatic reaction due to nervousness—which also suggests attraction.
20. She adjusts her clothes, smooths out (invisible) wrinkles, fiddles with her sleeve, or fixes little details.
Hands
Hands are almost as impossible to control as the eyes. If she gets nervous when you’re talking, it often shows in the way she can’t help but fiddle with things.
21. Her palms are facing your direction
22. She strokes her wrists, neck, or collarbones
23. She touches her chin or cheek—which shows she’s connecting with you
24. She fiddles with her phone, keys, a glass, or other items on the table
25. She fiddles with her jewelry
Physical Contact
A clear sign of interest is if she touches you in a natural, relaxed way.
26. She touches you while you’re talking
27. Most commonly, she touches your arm, shoulder, back, hand, or thigh
The Voice
By unconsciously matching her voice to yours, a stronger connection is formed between you.
28. She matches your volume
29. She starts speaking at the same pace as you
Behaviors
The signs listed above are all (usually) completely unconscious signals that women may send when they’re attracted to you. When it comes to behaviors, they can be either unconscious or consciously flirtatious. Either way, you can count on the fact that if she displays any of the signs listed below, there’s a good chance she wants more than just friendship:
30. She gives you her full attention in a group
31. She laughs at the same time as you
32. She blushes when you talk or make eye contact
33. She seems to be looking in your direction from a distance (she’s actually looking at you)
34. She “accidentally” bumps into you or brushes against you
35. She’s often close to you
36. She stays and talks to you, even after she’s said she’s leaving or her friends have already left
37. She picks up the conversation with you when you stop talking
38. She giggles
39. She laughs at your jokes, even if they’re bad
40. She gives you a compliment—or several
41. She playfully hits you on the arm, but laughs
42. She answers or gets back to you when you call or text her, or she reaches out to you first
43. She stutters, stammers, or forgets what she’s going to say when you’re talking
44. She doesn’t back away if you happen to get a little too close
45. She talks about things she wants to do with you or show you in the future (for example, if you’re talking about a newly opened bar and she says, “We should go there sometime!” or if you show interest in something she’s telling you about and she says something like, “I’ll take you there so you can see for yourself how amazing it is!”)
46. She adds you on Facebook (or other social media) after you’ve met
47. She gets really happy when it turns out you have something in common (especially if it’s something trivial, like living in the same neighborhood or being the same age)
48. She asks personal questions and clearly shows that she wants to know more about you
49. She asks what you’re doing this weekend or for the rest of the day
50. She seems flustered if you happen to end up alone together, but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation
When can you be sure she’s interested?
Is she interested in me? It’s actually impossible to say which signs guarantee that she’s interested, since all girls give off different signals and behave differently. But there are a few rules of thumb. You can be relatively sure she’s interested in you when you notice she consistently shows various signs of interest—then you know it’s time to take the next step, such as asking her out on a date, exchanging numbers, or kissing her. If, on top of that, she doesn’t show those signs toward others, then you can be pretty sure
Here is a list of the most common and important signs to help you figure out whether she’s interested or not.
Body Language
If her body language changes when she’s near you, it’s a clear sign that she’s attracted to you. Here are a few things to look out for:
1. She pulls her arms back and pushes her chest out
2. She moves in time with the music in the background while looking at you
3. She straightens up when she gets your attention or is near you
4. Her body is facing you
5. Her feet are pointing toward you
6. She mirrors your posture and body language; for example, if you lean to the side or run your hand through your hair, she’ll do the same, either immediately or shortly afterward
7. She leans toward you or enters your personal space
The Mouth and Lips
The lips and mouth are incredibly closely linked to intimacy and sensuality. When a girl is attracted to someone, it often shows in the way she unconsciously touches or licks her lips. Look for signs such as:
The girl bites her lip
8. She lightly bites her lip
9. She smiles
10. She licks her lips or teeth
11. She pouts and/or applies lipstick or lip balm while looking at you
The Eyes
The eyes are the window to the soul—it’s basically impossible to hide or control your eye movements or the size of your pupils. Dare to look her in the eyes and see what you find. Perhaps one of the following signs:
12. She blinks unusually often
13. Her pupils get extra large when you’re talking
14. If you make eye contact from a distance, she holds it a second longer than usual
15. She maintains eye contact with a slight smile
16. She breaks eye contact by looking down
Hair
Women’s hair is also strongly associated with sexuality (hence the use of veils in many cultures). If you notice that she’s playing with her hair or otherwise unconsciously drawing your attention to it, these can be clear signs of interest.
17. She plays with her hair
18. She tosses her hair back over her shoulders
19. She runs her fingers through her hair
17. She plays with her hair
18. She tosses her hair back over her shoulders
19. She runs her fingers through her hair
Clothing
If she’s interested in you, she naturally wants to look her best around you. Starting to adjust her clothes could be because of that, or it might be an automatic reaction due to nervousness—which also suggests attraction.
20. She adjusts her clothes, smooths out (invisible) wrinkles, fiddles with her sleeve, or fixes little details.
Hands
Hands are almost as impossible to control as the eyes. If she gets nervous when you’re talking, it often shows in the way she can’t help but fiddle with things.
21. Her palms are facing your direction
22. She strokes her wrists, neck, or collarbones
23. She touches her chin or cheek—which shows she’s connecting with you
24. She fiddles with her phone, keys, a glass, or other items on the table
25. She fiddles with her jewelry
Physical Contact
A clear sign of interest is if she touches you in a natural, relaxed way.
26. She touches you while you’re talking
27. Most commonly, she touches your arm, shoulder, back, hand, or thigh
The Voice
By unconsciously matching her voice to yours, a stronger connection is formed between you.
28. She matches your volume
29. She starts speaking at the same pace as you
Behaviors
The signs listed above are all (usually) completely unconscious signals that women may send when they’re attracted to you. When it comes to behaviors, they can be either unconscious or consciously flirtatious. Either way, you can count on the fact that if she displays any of the signs listed below, there’s a good chance she wants more than just friendship:
30. She gives you her full attention in a group
31. She laughs at the same time as you
32. She blushes when you talk or make eye contact
33. She seems to be looking in your direction from a distance (she’s actually looking at you)
34. She “accidentally” bumps into you or brushes against you
35. She’s often close to you
36. She stays and talks to you, even after she’s said she’s leaving or her friends have already left
37. She picks up the conversation with you when you stop talking
38. She giggles
39. She laughs at your jokes, even if they’re bad
40. She gives you a compliment—or several
41. She playfully hits you on the arm, but laughs
42. She answers or gets back to you when you call or text her, or she reaches out to you first
43. She stutters, stammers, or forgets what she’s going to say when you’re talking
44. She doesn’t back away if you happen to get a little too close
45. She talks about things she wants to do with you or show you in the future (for example, if you’re talking about a newly opened bar and she says, “We should go there sometime!” or if you show interest in something she’s telling you about and she says something like, “I’ll take you there so you can see for yourself how amazing it is!”)
46. She adds you on Facebook (or other social media) after you’ve met
47. She gets really happy when it turns out you have something in common (especially if it’s something trivial, like living in the same neighborhood or being the same age)
48. She asks personal questions and clearly shows that she wants to know more about you
49. She asks what you’re doing this weekend or for the rest of the day
50. She seems flustered if you happen to end up alone together, but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation
When can you be sure she’s interested?
Is she interested in me? It’s actually impossible to say which signs guarantee that she’s interested, since all girls give off different signals and behave differently. But there are a few rules of thumb. You can be relatively sure she’s interested in you when you notice she consistently shows various signs of interest—then you know it’s time to take the next step, such as asking her out on a date, exchanging numbers, or kissing her. If, on top of that, she doesn’t show those signs toward others, then you can be pretty sure
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