When I love someone, I want them. I want to tease, touch and satisfy them. I want them to know they are desired.

Intimacy is a huge deal to me. That has been a problem in relationships. People push you away, like they've had their fill. It must be nice to be so full of love that you can push your partner away. Meanwhile I'm drained for someone who is only concerned for themselves.

I never get what I need and I attract selfish people who fall for me because of what I give, not for who I am. I don't think they even realize it.

It must be nice to get what you need and then lay back. Uninspired.

It wouldn't be as blissful for me if giving wasn't involved, so I just don't understand how someone can only take.

Not to mention how much it hurts when your own partner rejects you. The person you choose to fulfill life with, doesn't care if you are fulfilled.

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

Not wanting to sound insensitive. Have you ever been able to express what it is that you need to feel fulfilled. Or is it just met with half hearted effort?

I met someone who said to me "not everything is about secs" and I was really insulted, I think that may have been the point. But it really took me back because I enjoy being intimate with a partner, I enjoy not just the love making, the connection you feel from what you share with a partner.
I mean it's what sets apart a best friend platonic friendship to a romantic one.

And I noticed that as time went on they shut down a lot of my advances, just flirting with am arm touch, a slap of the bum was met with "oh grow up!"

They didn't really compliment me when I made an effort. And actually tried to say I looked better when I was at my most messiest.

I started to realise i was being conditioned.
It's not a good way to feel at all. Noone deserves that.