I have never met the love of my life. I was not that fortunate.
Sometimes we don't need to meet someone right away. I'm not having any problems, but I'm saying that sometimes it's important to take a break from life or looking for a partner. One needs to take time out to heal, before moving on and thinking about another relationship. You don't want to carry any unresolved baggage with you.
It's important to take time out and love yourself and take good care of yourself. Pray about it and when the time is right, God will send that special someone to you.
It's okay to be by yourself and give yourself time to enjoy your own company. Women don't necessarily "need" a man. There are other ways and means to be happy. Call time out and ask yourself if you really need a partner, or you just might be feeling lonely instead. That's natural. Make a list of pros and cons in your quest. Answer honestly. Do you really need a partner, or do you just miss one or want one for one reason or another, and that could even be from plain old boredom. I think it's important to take an honest assessment. Especially to never rush things that affect your whole life.
You could ask yourself things like:
Do I really want to start over and share my life with someone else in marriage?
Do I really want to do all the cooking and cleaning again? Picking up clothes, waiting on another person, being their personal cook again? Feeling obligated to account for where you're going, why you're going, how long you'll be gone, and when you'll be back?
Do you covet and enjoy your privacy or would you rather be sharing your space with someone else all the time?
Do you like planning and cooking three meals a day, whether you feel good or not?
Would you feel obligated to explain your every move?
Would you feel obligated to do things you really don't want to do, just because your partner wants to?
Freedom is such a lovely and precious thing. Your time is your time. For once, you're truly free and not obligated to anyone or anything. You can come and go as you please and eat or go to bed when you please, with time being no consideration.
What all is in it for you? Would it be worth it?
Would you love to do all the ironing again and all the washing? Would it be worth it?
Those are some of the things you have to consider and be willing to take a look at but you must be completely honest with yourself. You will adjust if you don't get married or have a boyfriend. I can see it your age that you might want someone again but just make sure that's really what you want and you're not doing it out of boredom or loneliness alone.
I feel a person should marry their best friend if that's what they wish to do, is marry. That's someone for me, would have to be someone that I totally respect and who respects me. Real communication is a must, as well as respect for each other, trust, and honesty. If you don't have these things, you really don't have a relationship. It just won't work. And never marry a hot head. 🤭 Truly.
