What is your love language? Are you aware of it?
I read a story about love language again. It fascinates me.
But what is even more amazing is that many of us are actually not aware that love language is a thing. If you're one of them, that is okay. Admittedly, I find myself an adult when I learned of it.
So basically, a love language is the way you express love. And it is a language that speaks in general, not just romantically. But on another aspect, it is also the way to love you right in a way that hits and affects you positively. And those two things could be different.
For instance, for most children, they brighten when they are given words of affirmation.
But they may show love by demanding attention from people they like and spending time with them. Some adults may find it irritating.
For some people, they like to be touched, maybe a hug or a pat on the back.
For some people, they show love by giving.
Those kinds of things.
Point is, if you try to love someone in your own love language, but that happens to not be their love language, then you see how they may react differently from what you hope.
Say if you keep giving material things to someone who isn't into that, then there may be a gap in the level of understanding. So when we love (be it family or friends or romantic partner or basically anyone), it is important to know and have an understanding of the love languages of both sides. This makes way for good communication and actions.
I happen to be a believer that if we love someone, then we would put in the effort to know about his/her language and have him/her learn ours. Parents and children included.
So yeah. Love language.
But what is even more amazing is that many of us are actually not aware that love language is a thing. If you're one of them, that is okay. Admittedly, I find myself an adult when I learned of it.
So basically, a love language is the way you express love. And it is a language that speaks in general, not just romantically. But on another aspect, it is also the way to love you right in a way that hits and affects you positively. And those two things could be different.
For instance, for most children, they brighten when they are given words of affirmation.
But they may show love by demanding attention from people they like and spending time with them. Some adults may find it irritating.
For some people, they like to be touched, maybe a hug or a pat on the back.
For some people, they show love by giving.
Those kinds of things.
Point is, if you try to love someone in your own love language, but that happens to not be their love language, then you see how they may react differently from what you hope.
Say if you keep giving material things to someone who isn't into that, then there may be a gap in the level of understanding. So when we love (be it family or friends or romantic partner or basically anyone), it is important to know and have an understanding of the love languages of both sides. This makes way for good communication and actions.
I happen to be a believer that if we love someone, then we would put in the effort to know about his/her language and have him/her learn ours. Parents and children included.
So yeah. Love language.
