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I feel like my dad and grandpa- especially my dad- gave me unrealistic expectations for a man.

I was an only child for 10 years, the first grandchild and first niece for my mom’s siblings.
I was extremely spoiled by my parents and grandfather.
Each time I wanted something my grandpa would buy it for me without question. He has sadly passed away but I miss him so much.
I now have three younger sisters but still to this day I am my dad’s favorite and whatever I want he will give to me. Each time I want money he gives it to me. He doesn’t let me pay rent or do chores. He doesn’t even know what to buy me at this point for my birthday or Christmases since I have anything I could ask for. Keep in mind I’m 24.
I am self aware but it’s so difficult letting go of certain expectations you were brought up with.
It is difficult because when I’m dating a guy, even if he’s sweet and caring I subconsciously expect him to buy me lavish gifts, take me places and give me attention constantly. As soon as they stop doing any of that- whether they’re busy, or don’t spend money on me I usually break up with them. I think it’s because material things were really ingrained as a form of love to me for as long as I can remember.
Im trying to let go of that but it’s so hard.
Just venting.
I remember when we first met on EP i gave you crap cuz you posted somethin like im so rich and spoiled and better than you or something like that hahah we became friends but i remember that now
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@TryingtoLava That was here like 8 years ago. I think I posted about how spoiled I was and how I hated when adults told me what to do. I still hate being told what to do but I’m much more chill now.
MrsRachelEvans · 26-30, F
@AnonymousJSS sometimes adults need to be in charge for our own good!
CheyenneW · 46-50, F
@MrsRachelEvans Absolutely
MarineBob · 56-60, M
Dad and Grandpa done what they wanted. .... Do you see it yet? NO one can possibly measure up to them. That's every dads thing
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@MarineBob If a guy truly loves me why wouldn’t he want to spend a lot of money on me and be at my feet 24/7?
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
Sounds a bit high-maintenance. Lol. But there are lots of guys who will pony up those riches.
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@StevetheSleeve Yeah I think I’m gonna start hanging out around the rich areas here and hopefully meet some nice guys
MrsRachelEvans · 26-30, F
Lucky girl.
MrsRachelEvans · 26-30, F
@AnonymousJSS because you were well looked after
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@MrsRachelEvans Thank you ma’am
MrsRachelEvans · 26-30, F
@AnonymousJSS I love that you are polite. Good girl. My father raised me to be the same.
Flenflyys · 31-35, F
Sounds like normal grandparent behaviour but yea your dad didn’t do you any favours. I think it’s important to recognize our parent’s mistakes and not repeat them in our own parenting.

You could also just snag a rich old guy
eMortal · M
You’re not alone in this situation. It pretty describes what dating is like in the last 10years
Animalvan · 56-60, M
What do you feel like then?
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@Animalvan What

 
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