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Not really in like a romantic relationship sort of way. I have friends here that I love and love me back, but I was very careful to set romantic boundaries here from the very beginning and now I’m married to my real life wife. I do suspect a couple girls caught feelings and I was unaware as those relationships went real sour and I couldn’t figure out why at first. I’m really slow about when someone is very into me. lol
TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M
@DarkHeaven I had a special someone I was genuinely into abruptly pull away from me. No fun.
@TheOthetAcc I would never pull away from a friend, exactly, I just had no idea they were into me like that, so when it became very clear to them that I wasn’t doing that here ever with anyone and had even gotten a real serious girlfriend relationship offline (my future wife,) they both sort of freaked on me at different milestones in my real world relationship. One became friends with me while I was already with her but freaked out when we got engaged, and the other one got close with me just before my wife and I went on our first date and freaked after we said our I do’s. I feel bad. I’m not trying to hurt anyone and when I flirt with literally every girl I kinda even halfway like on here, it’s not real. I don’t know why I do it. Probably because I got low self esteem and body image issues and it feels good to be wanted. I never set out to hurt people and I never ever tell them our flirty friendship is something that’s it’s not. But I still feel bad. Cause I know what heartache feels like too.
@TheOthetAcc and I’m sorry about yours. that kind of stuff sucks even when we are the ones who got the wrong idea or whatever. doesn’t matter because you’re heart doesn’t know the difference.
@TheOthetAcc not saying you personally did. just saying in general, either way.
TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M
@DarkHeaven Yeah I kind of learned to just take whatever happens online as just "fun". If it's meant to turn into anything serious it will but I'm otherwise just here to enjoy myself with whomever is happy to join in. It just sucked that one time because I genuinely liked that person. I opened up to her about everything including my childhood trauma and she was there, until she wasn't. She shared her trauma with me as well so I thought we had something special going. My fault. Won't happen again. 😃
@TheOthetAcc yeah. I got burned on a sort of relationship here really early. We was kinda sorta puppy loving it but she flipped on me because I said my Dr was cute and blocked me. I was really confused about it because we had shared a lot too (trauma wise.) And I said never again and held to it. We handn’t got super close but close enough, as we communicated off site. It stung enough for me to learn that I’m far too fragile emotionally to handle a long distance relationship on a semi anonymous website and I physically need more because of my mental illness issues. I need to be able to hold their hand I guess, basically. I can’t have my lover ghost me and still be okay in life.