Tell me about your new girlfriend

I’m not gonna be angry I’m not gonna lose my cool and fall apart.
I don’t care how long you’ve been dating her
I don’t care if you’re gonna marry her

all I care about is your happiness.

And I do care about not being blindsided.

We started the process of being without each other and believe it or not I can handle thinking about you with another woman, physically emotionally intimately

I can imagine you marrying her

I can imagine her being in love with you, because I only have beautiful feelings for you and it’s not hard to imagine you happy

I’m not as sad as I would’ve been because your happiness fuels my healing.

But there’s something that would really truly hurt me right now on top of everything

It would hurt if you continued to hold back

If you kept your relationship a secret

If you lied to me
pretend like you don’t have love for another

To protect me

That would hurt me so much

I just want you to feel comfortable to say

“Yea, my love , I found someone else and I’m in love with her and want to marry her “

You don’t even have to say you’re sorry
just don’t lie to me please