How much pain and struggle did you go through before you eventually found "the one"? I'm feeling pretty discouraged.
How much pain and struggle did you go through before you found the one? Feeling pretty discouraged.
I [24M] feel like I've been doing everything right but I'm pretty jaded at this point. Since I was able to develop crushes on women, all I've ever wanted was a relationship. I've never ever been into hookups or any of the things people complain about dealing with. I've done significant work on myself career-wise, greatly improved my social skills, health/physical shape, etc. Picked up so many hobbies. I went from barely getting any matches on dating apps to having a ton of low quality matches. The dating app approach to finding someone actually drove me crazy and I deleted all my accounts two weeks ago and don't see myself returning to them again. I'm just so frustrated. I'm 24 but at this point I'm doubting if I'll eventually find someone to just share my life with. That's all I want and have evr wanted. It's hard not to feel this way when I feel like I've done everything. I even tried the "I don't care about dating" approach for nearly all of undergrad but nothing happened organically. Caring or not caring, tons of matches or not, the results are still the same.
I know I might be young but I'm planning to start a PhD next year and honestly feel like that's my last shot to meet someone. If I'm still single when I graduate, I feel like I'd just give up. The thought of being alone for the rest of my life scares me, tbh. I've been to therapy and continually affirm to myself that I'm not hard to love, but it's hard not to feel that way.
Can someone who went through similar pain and struggle and eventually met "the one" share a success story please? I just want to read as many of those as I can to help remind me that there can be light at the end of the tunnel.
I [24M] feel like I've been doing everything right but I'm pretty jaded at this point. Since I was able to develop crushes on women, all I've ever wanted was a relationship. I've never ever been into hookups or any of the things people complain about dealing with. I've done significant work on myself career-wise, greatly improved my social skills, health/physical shape, etc. Picked up so many hobbies. I went from barely getting any matches on dating apps to having a ton of low quality matches. The dating app approach to finding someone actually drove me crazy and I deleted all my accounts two weeks ago and don't see myself returning to them again. I'm just so frustrated. I'm 24 but at this point I'm doubting if I'll eventually find someone to just share my life with. That's all I want and have evr wanted. It's hard not to feel this way when I feel like I've done everything. I even tried the "I don't care about dating" approach for nearly all of undergrad but nothing happened organically. Caring or not caring, tons of matches or not, the results are still the same.
I know I might be young but I'm planning to start a PhD next year and honestly feel like that's my last shot to meet someone. If I'm still single when I graduate, I feel like I'd just give up. The thought of being alone for the rest of my life scares me, tbh. I've been to therapy and continually affirm to myself that I'm not hard to love, but it's hard not to feel that way.
Can someone who went through similar pain and struggle and eventually met "the one" share a success story please? I just want to read as many of those as I can to help remind me that there can be light at the end of the tunnel.
26-30, M
