I Fell In Love, But My Best Friend Fell In Love With Him First.
Brace yourself, this is gonna be a long one.
So. There's this guy who's been my friend ever since we were 7, we sat next to each other in class. We've never talked to each other because well, you know... he's a boy and I'm a girl and we were 7. We were very friendly to our respective gender. He can sing in the most beautiful voice ever which got him a lot of fangirls, he also had the looks and 4 years later he's still the prettiest boy I've ever seen.
We first started a conversation when he bought this huge color pencil case and showed it off to the class. Since I sit next to him I get a first-class view of that expensive shit. When he went to the toilet, I immediately took the case and opened it. Admiring those beautiful colors. What 7-year-old me didn't notice is that he came back in like- under 30 seconds- I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE HE TOOK HIS SEAT. AND HE SITS NEXT TO ME-
I didn't notice him until he tapped his desk. I looked at him, his eyebrow raised with a grin plastered on his face. I still remember it clearly lmao. I said sorry and pushed the case back to him, he gladly took it and kept staring at me. I was internally panicking that time lmao- and then, he spoke up. "Wanna share it?" and those were the first words he's ever said to me.
We've been friends for 4 years. Every time we're together we just instantly click! And remember how I said he had fangirls? well- a lot of girls told me why they had a crush on him since he and I were close. Though he has this bad habit of changing girlfriends every 3 months and showing them off to me- he's a huge playboy but the girls still like him for some reason- he also has a habit of jokingly confessing to people online, who he knew had a crush on him and the next day he tells them he doesn't remember anything. Even after I told the girls that they still obsess over him, here are a few traits he has:
He's good-looking, He has a great personality, His presence lights up the mood in class, He's funny, He's athletic, He has a beautiful singing voice, He's smart, He's friendly, He's romantic and he's a tease. He likes to spend time with me and he'll talk to me every chance he gets, since we're in the same club we'd walk to the clubroom together, he'd be a good husband with the girl he truly likes one day. That's from my perspective.
We also have a cute inside joke lmao-
It's 2022 and currently our class's last year of school. And I was kinda in the mood for drama. This year he sits next to me, so on the second day of school with only an hour left of school, I asked him who his crush is. He says he doesn't have one, I kept pushing him. I ask him if he has one, and he nods. I ask if his crush is in our class, and he nods. I ask him what row they're sitting in, he says they're in my row.
At this point, I kind of figured out what was going on, but I acted obliviously. Even my classmate found out by how obvious he was acting.
I named every person in my row and he denied every single one. And then there is only me left, I asked him if he liked me, and he said no. Now I'm just confused lmao- and then I asked him if I knew the person and he says yes. I asked him how long he's had a crush on them, he says since they were 7.
I asked him if it was me again, and he kept quiet. At this point the classmate that was seeing all this happen was just cackling- it was raining that day too.
He then sighed and raised a finger towards me. I moved my head to the right and the finger followed, I moved it to the left and it followed. "Is it me?" I asked once again. He nodded and said, "It's you."
And I didn't know what I was thinking but I laughed. He groaned and hit his head on his desk, "I knew you'd reject me," He whispered. At that time, I never thought of him as a love interest, but he has been the best guy I've met in these last 4 years. I didn't know what went into me, but I proposed something. "Listen, man, You're a great guy and I love you. I don't know if it's that kind of love though. But let's see if you can make me fall for you before the end of the school year." He looked at me and chuckled.
I smiled and stood up, "But first, you need to get taller than me," I laughed. "Bet," he grinned.
And that's the end for that part. I went back home and screamed into my pillow, ha-
The next day is where things start to go down.
I told my best friend about what happened, we'll call her Dahlia. I didn't notice I was smiling the whole time I ranted, in the middle of it I noticed her face went dark. She seemed to be pissed about something so I asked her what was going on. She took a deep breath and told me she liked him for over 4 years. Now that hit me hard. I immediately felt bad about everything I told her and said sorry multiple times. She said it was okay. "He likes you, I'm not mad at all. I mean like- you're pretty, you're smart, you're funny, you're friendly, you're fun, you're nice, you're humble, you- you're perfect! I understand why he would like you! You've been friends for what- 5 years! It's understandable! And I would just hide and watch him as he's having fun with girls other than me! hah!" Tears were starting to fall from her eyes. I pulled her into a hug and brought her to the bathroom.
Once she calmed down she told stories about how she fell in love with him. He helped her when she slipped on a piece of paper. Ever since then she would stare at him from afar and curse the girls who make him smile. I was one of them, But she didn't dare to think badly of me because I'm 'too nice' 'beautiful' 'perfect' and 'can't help but love me'. I think she was overreacting-
She said she would think of his and her future together, she would dream of scenarios and would ask people for photos of him. She's been obsessing over him for over 4 years. She said every time he stares at her it means he likes her. Every time he talks to her it means he likes her. Every time he says her name she'd panic and think he was telling people he likes her. Every time a girl talks to him she dreams of beating the shit out of the girl.
And I was shaken by how obsessed she was. She's assuming shit, she's lying to herself, she's obsessing over him for nothing! And inside, I know she knows it! She was so sweet, so nice, and so well-mannered! I never knew this was what she's been going through. And she's my best friend for god's sake! I wanted to tell her the truth, how absurd the way she was thinking was but she was so happy. She was so in love I couldn't dare tell her the truth!
The next day, she wanted to support me and him. I knew she was still in love with him but I didn't wanna bring it up.
The confession spread like wildfire and people started to gossip. He didn't help since he keeps making moves on me. And every time he does I would look at Dahlia, and she would avoid my eyes.
Over time, the rumors died down and so did his and I's relationship. We acted as if the confession never happened. I thought it was for the best, and I assumed he didn't like me anymore since he's treating me the same way when we were friends. The teacher changed our seats so we rarely talk now. I was just starting to feel like I liked him, but then he says he has a gf. wtf man.
Dahlia's and his relationship though... took a turn. Someone told the whole class Dahlia liked him and people started shipping them together since they thought me and him weren't close anymore. Dahlia felt like she should just be honest, and confessed to him. Online. When she told me that I hit her on the head. Seriously??? Online??? I need the spice!
He replied by saying "I have a gf, but I like you too," and when I read the text I was disappointed in him. He hasn't changed from his playboy phase. And guess what. Dahlia said she's okay with it! She's okay with being the second choice! She's okay with hanging out with him online! He doesn't even look at her at school! She's okay with him ignoring her in school, she's okay with him leaving her on read! She's still in love with him! And remember when I said he has a habit of confessing to people online as a joke? That's exactly what happened! I asked him if he likes Dahlia, and he said "Since when?". Dahlia was right beside me at that time and her heart was shattered into pieces! But she picked up the pieces and held dearly to it! Still in love with him!
I guess I can't blame her since it's her first love, and it's been going on for over 4 years! But I just hate the fact that he's treating her like shit! Purposely showing off her gf who is a year younger than him to Dahlia, PURPOSELY! He knows that Dahlia likes him!
Dahlia says she'll move on but those are just lies! She can't move on! I just hope he'll be honest with her before the year ends.
I and he are still friends, I can't seem to dislike him since we've been together for 4 years and he still has that charming personality. I just hope he stops being a huge prick who plays with girl's
hearts. And the confession? Oh, we acted as if it never existed.
What should I do in this situation?
So. There's this guy who's been my friend ever since we were 7, we sat next to each other in class. We've never talked to each other because well, you know... he's a boy and I'm a girl and we were 7. We were very friendly to our respective gender. He can sing in the most beautiful voice ever which got him a lot of fangirls, he also had the looks and 4 years later he's still the prettiest boy I've ever seen.
We first started a conversation when he bought this huge color pencil case and showed it off to the class. Since I sit next to him I get a first-class view of that expensive shit. When he went to the toilet, I immediately took the case and opened it. Admiring those beautiful colors. What 7-year-old me didn't notice is that he came back in like- under 30 seconds- I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE HE TOOK HIS SEAT. AND HE SITS NEXT TO ME-
I didn't notice him until he tapped his desk. I looked at him, his eyebrow raised with a grin plastered on his face. I still remember it clearly lmao. I said sorry and pushed the case back to him, he gladly took it and kept staring at me. I was internally panicking that time lmao- and then, he spoke up. "Wanna share it?" and those were the first words he's ever said to me.
We've been friends for 4 years. Every time we're together we just instantly click! And remember how I said he had fangirls? well- a lot of girls told me why they had a crush on him since he and I were close. Though he has this bad habit of changing girlfriends every 3 months and showing them off to me- he's a huge playboy but the girls still like him for some reason- he also has a habit of jokingly confessing to people online, who he knew had a crush on him and the next day he tells them he doesn't remember anything. Even after I told the girls that they still obsess over him, here are a few traits he has:
He's good-looking, He has a great personality, His presence lights up the mood in class, He's funny, He's athletic, He has a beautiful singing voice, He's smart, He's friendly, He's romantic and he's a tease. He likes to spend time with me and he'll talk to me every chance he gets, since we're in the same club we'd walk to the clubroom together, he'd be a good husband with the girl he truly likes one day. That's from my perspective.
We also have a cute inside joke lmao-
It's 2022 and currently our class's last year of school. And I was kinda in the mood for drama. This year he sits next to me, so on the second day of school with only an hour left of school, I asked him who his crush is. He says he doesn't have one, I kept pushing him. I ask him if he has one, and he nods. I ask if his crush is in our class, and he nods. I ask him what row they're sitting in, he says they're in my row.
At this point, I kind of figured out what was going on, but I acted obliviously. Even my classmate found out by how obvious he was acting.
I named every person in my row and he denied every single one. And then there is only me left, I asked him if he liked me, and he said no. Now I'm just confused lmao- and then I asked him if I knew the person and he says yes. I asked him how long he's had a crush on them, he says since they were 7.
I asked him if it was me again, and he kept quiet. At this point the classmate that was seeing all this happen was just cackling- it was raining that day too.
He then sighed and raised a finger towards me. I moved my head to the right and the finger followed, I moved it to the left and it followed. "Is it me?" I asked once again. He nodded and said, "It's you."
And I didn't know what I was thinking but I laughed. He groaned and hit his head on his desk, "I knew you'd reject me," He whispered. At that time, I never thought of him as a love interest, but he has been the best guy I've met in these last 4 years. I didn't know what went into me, but I proposed something. "Listen, man, You're a great guy and I love you. I don't know if it's that kind of love though. But let's see if you can make me fall for you before the end of the school year." He looked at me and chuckled.
I smiled and stood up, "But first, you need to get taller than me," I laughed. "Bet," he grinned.
And that's the end for that part. I went back home and screamed into my pillow, ha-
The next day is where things start to go down.
I told my best friend about what happened, we'll call her Dahlia. I didn't notice I was smiling the whole time I ranted, in the middle of it I noticed her face went dark. She seemed to be pissed about something so I asked her what was going on. She took a deep breath and told me she liked him for over 4 years. Now that hit me hard. I immediately felt bad about everything I told her and said sorry multiple times. She said it was okay. "He likes you, I'm not mad at all. I mean like- you're pretty, you're smart, you're funny, you're friendly, you're fun, you're nice, you're humble, you- you're perfect! I understand why he would like you! You've been friends for what- 5 years! It's understandable! And I would just hide and watch him as he's having fun with girls other than me! hah!" Tears were starting to fall from her eyes. I pulled her into a hug and brought her to the bathroom.
Once she calmed down she told stories about how she fell in love with him. He helped her when she slipped on a piece of paper. Ever since then she would stare at him from afar and curse the girls who make him smile. I was one of them, But she didn't dare to think badly of me because I'm 'too nice' 'beautiful' 'perfect' and 'can't help but love me'. I think she was overreacting-
She said she would think of his and her future together, she would dream of scenarios and would ask people for photos of him. She's been obsessing over him for over 4 years. She said every time he stares at her it means he likes her. Every time he talks to her it means he likes her. Every time he says her name she'd panic and think he was telling people he likes her. Every time a girl talks to him she dreams of beating the shit out of the girl.
And I was shaken by how obsessed she was. She's assuming shit, she's lying to herself, she's obsessing over him for nothing! And inside, I know she knows it! She was so sweet, so nice, and so well-mannered! I never knew this was what she's been going through. And she's my best friend for god's sake! I wanted to tell her the truth, how absurd the way she was thinking was but she was so happy. She was so in love I couldn't dare tell her the truth!
The next day, she wanted to support me and him. I knew she was still in love with him but I didn't wanna bring it up.
The confession spread like wildfire and people started to gossip. He didn't help since he keeps making moves on me. And every time he does I would look at Dahlia, and she would avoid my eyes.
Over time, the rumors died down and so did his and I's relationship. We acted as if the confession never happened. I thought it was for the best, and I assumed he didn't like me anymore since he's treating me the same way when we were friends. The teacher changed our seats so we rarely talk now. I was just starting to feel like I liked him, but then he says he has a gf. wtf man.
Dahlia's and his relationship though... took a turn. Someone told the whole class Dahlia liked him and people started shipping them together since they thought me and him weren't close anymore. Dahlia felt like she should just be honest, and confessed to him. Online. When she told me that I hit her on the head. Seriously??? Online??? I need the spice!
He replied by saying "I have a gf, but I like you too," and when I read the text I was disappointed in him. He hasn't changed from his playboy phase. And guess what. Dahlia said she's okay with it! She's okay with being the second choice! She's okay with hanging out with him online! He doesn't even look at her at school! She's okay with him ignoring her in school, she's okay with him leaving her on read! She's still in love with him! And remember when I said he has a habit of confessing to people online as a joke? That's exactly what happened! I asked him if he likes Dahlia, and he said "Since when?". Dahlia was right beside me at that time and her heart was shattered into pieces! But she picked up the pieces and held dearly to it! Still in love with him!
I guess I can't blame her since it's her first love, and it's been going on for over 4 years! But I just hate the fact that he's treating her like shit! Purposely showing off her gf who is a year younger than him to Dahlia, PURPOSELY! He knows that Dahlia likes him!
Dahlia says she'll move on but those are just lies! She can't move on! I just hope he'll be honest with her before the year ends.
I and he are still friends, I can't seem to dislike him since we've been together for 4 years and he still has that charming personality. I just hope he stops being a huge prick who plays with girl's
hearts. And the confession? Oh, we acted as if it never existed.
What should I do in this situation?
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