Do women only love men for what men can do?

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Yes

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I don’t know whether this is true as I’ve never seen it first hand. Can you give some examples where women love men for who they are - and by that you can exclude men who are rich, powerful influential popular etc because women love those things and easily confuse that love for real actual compassion and care. Also getting pregnant and having kids for a man doesn’t count as all to often children are used as pawns for personal gain.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

My partner is definitely not rich, powerful influential popular etc lol

I won’t BS you. When it comes to selecting someone that you want to intertwine and spend the rest of your life with, if you have any dreams you intend to make a reality, finances, whether they are competent and capable are reasonable mate selection factors. At a certain point I decided I didn’t want to pour anymore of myself into dating ‘projects’ (guys who say they want to get their act together, say they want ABCD out of life, but, for a myriad of excuses, don’t follow through ). I wanted a partner that I could *mutually* create a good life together. (‘Good life; meaning we have complementary dreams and consistently work towards those aims, both as individuals and as a couple, in a compatible way)

But as for falling in love with him? I love his compassionate nature, our ability to be comfortably silent, his thoughtfulness and how we laugh together a lot. I love that we create a safe place to be ourselves and that overtime we’ve learned that we can trust each other. I appreciate that we can be good to each other and nobody needs to worry about being taken advantage of anymore. We have fun together and he’s open to new experiences. I love the way he gets happy creases in his eyes when he talks about all of the animals he came across that day while he was at work. I love that no matter what he is doing with himself he does it with the mindset that by putting his whole heart into it and being kind he is helping make the world a better place to some degree. I love what a good dad he is to his son and it warms my heart to see my own kiddo bonding with him in small ways. I love how we sneak hugs and kisses while cooking together. List goes on.. he’s my best friend.