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WhateverWorks · 36-40
I think you can hit it off with someone right away, but One of the biggest lessons I wish I learned sooner in life is that there’s a huge difference between having a connection and Love
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I like to think it’s all possible. My partner and I hit it off over PMs on a dating website. There was the connection part, then the ‘falling in love’ part, but I think the actual love part where you become best friends who discover you can trust/depend on each other and decide you both want to intertwine your lives together takes time. @Ghostinthemachine
@WhateverWorks to me, Love also means you want the best for the other person, even if it means sacrifices for you.
Hopefully this feeling flows both ways, is mutual.
Otherwise one person is always giving and the other is always taking
Hopefully this feeling flows both ways, is mutual.
Otherwise one person is always giving and the other is always taking
WhateverWorks · 36-40
That’s very true. I also think …. In a healthy relationship people work together to find compromises to take each other’s needs and desires into consideration, but if loving someone requires a ton of personal sacrifices to the extent you don’t enjoy your own life anymore or like who you are anymore then it may be time to reevaluate whether that is a good relationship to stay in @Ghostinthemachine
@WhateverWorks exactly. And this takes time to learn. I’ve been in relationships way to long before I realized it was working for the other person, but not for me.
And visa versa.
It’s a tricky thing, finding the right person, and even then they may be the right person at the time, but not ten years down the road. People change.
And visa versa.
It’s a tricky thing, finding the right person, and even then they may be the right person at the time, but not ten years down the road. People change.