Do you get offended when someone asks you what you do for a living?

So I started corresponding with an Australian penpal last summer. In my last letter to her around xmas, I asked her what she does because I’m interested in getting to know what she likes. She wrote back and told me she hates when people ask her that question because it means they are trying to find out how much money she makes.

That absolutely was not why I asked!

I’m so put off by her remark that I’m having second thoughts about continuing to correspond with her. If she didn’t want to answer she shouldn’t have said anythin

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RadiantRose · 31-35, F

Maybe she's insecure about her job, Sometimes insecurities make people lash out. I don't know if it's worth it to interact with overly sensitive people, it could be toxic. Are you going to give her another chance?

Fairydust · F

@RadiantRose actually that’s a good point. She might feel ashamed or someone’s put her down in the past.

RadiantRose · 31-35, F

@Fairydust Yes, when people are proud of their occupation they don't have to hide

Fairydust · F

@RadiantRose 💯 Spot on.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@RadiantRose I would never have wanted to make her feel insecure but given that she has told me she goes to different countries on meditation retreats, I don’t think she’s in a bad place financially

I don’t think I’ll reply. I’ve been thinking about this since early February. I don’t want to upset her again and I don’t want to correspond with someone where I feel like i might say the wrong thing and offend her. I have many pen pals and I’ve never experienced this

OogieBoogie · F

@Jenny1234 evidently the meditation isnt working 😏