In times of stress do the people around you support you or inflame the situation?

I swear, my mum is so antagonistic.

She just can't leave something alone, she just keeps picking at it like a scab.

I know they say you're in control of your own behaviour but when she does this she leaves me feeling so enraged.

It's not healthy to feel like this.

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Pianoman · 26-30, M

Just say Let it go, mum - it's not worth getting all stressed out over. Don't sweat the small stuff: SEE THE BIGGER PICTURE, WOMAN! 😁

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Pianoman haha you don't know my mum, speaking to her like that just gets you a right ear bashing.

Then the "oh I'm such a terrible person, I should just keep my mouth shut!"

Years ago I would have apologised but now I say "Yes!"

Then she goes silent and or tells me she really doesn't appreciate the tone I take with her and starts finding an excuse to leave.

Pianoman · 26-30, M

@Mellowgirl As you say, you can't win! 😁 Keep the peace by all means, but don't allow her to walk allover you. Set the limits of what you are prepared to endure. Best wishes.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Pianoman thank you X