I think my friend will get a divorce
I think my friend will get a divorce (lots of Pakistani culture references)
I have a friend, let’s call her Hanvesh. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. Last summer Hanvesh was saying how she wants to marry a guy that “knows what he wants and if he knows what he wants then I wanna be with him” or something. She seemed unclear and confused on what she wanted. And my other friend, let’s call her Fatima, said she knew a guy from Pakistan that’s living in the USA and is looking for marriage and Hanvesh said she wasn’t interested. Then Fatima says she knows a Pakistani from Spain that’s looking for a spouse and Hanvesh was interested. Fatima said “wait you just said you weren’t interested in the guy from Pakistan but you were from Spain? …” and Fatima started laughing.
A few months ago this year in April Hanvesh says she doesn’t want “a typical brown guy from a typical brown guy community” and “what if I wake up one morning and have to move from my home to where he lives out of state??” That made me think she’s not seeing anyone seriously bc if she was then she would know both of those situations by now. Maybe she is talking to multiple guys but no exclusive solidified relationship yet. A week ago she announced that she has a baat paaki and will get married in December this year Inshallah. With who??? Did you find a guy or did your parents find a rishta and you’re marrying him? I wanna believe she was dating someone but it just didn’t seem like it based off all of the conversations we had. I feel like it’s a rishta your parents found because of how quickly the relationship appears to have moved and because you’re a 29 year old woman maybe you felt pressured to getting married since you’re almost 30. I think she’s going to get a divorce in a couple years. She seems so confused on what’s she wants just recently.
I know I’m awful for thinking that. I literally feel like the nazaar people warn you to look out for and that this is why you don’t tell people good news. I’m not wishing divorce on her but when she said she was getting married I just find it hard to believe and can’t imagine her being married and sticking to it 🤷♀️
I have a friend, let’s call her Hanvesh. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. Last summer Hanvesh was saying how she wants to marry a guy that “knows what he wants and if he knows what he wants then I wanna be with him” or something. She seemed unclear and confused on what she wanted. And my other friend, let’s call her Fatima, said she knew a guy from Pakistan that’s living in the USA and is looking for marriage and Hanvesh said she wasn’t interested. Then Fatima says she knows a Pakistani from Spain that’s looking for a spouse and Hanvesh was interested. Fatima said “wait you just said you weren’t interested in the guy from Pakistan but you were from Spain? …” and Fatima started laughing.
A few months ago this year in April Hanvesh says she doesn’t want “a typical brown guy from a typical brown guy community” and “what if I wake up one morning and have to move from my home to where he lives out of state??” That made me think she’s not seeing anyone seriously bc if she was then she would know both of those situations by now. Maybe she is talking to multiple guys but no exclusive solidified relationship yet. A week ago she announced that she has a baat paaki and will get married in December this year Inshallah. With who??? Did you find a guy or did your parents find a rishta and you’re marrying him? I wanna believe she was dating someone but it just didn’t seem like it based off all of the conversations we had. I feel like it’s a rishta your parents found because of how quickly the relationship appears to have moved and because you’re a 29 year old woman maybe you felt pressured to getting married since you’re almost 30. I think she’s going to get a divorce in a couple years. She seems so confused on what’s she wants just recently.
I know I’m awful for thinking that. I literally feel like the nazaar people warn you to look out for and that this is why you don’t tell people good news. I’m not wishing divorce on her but when she said she was getting married I just find it hard to believe and can’t imagine her being married and sticking to it 🤷♀️
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