Many years ago

@Scribbles Gay is a choice.

@hippyjoe1955 Every action is a choice. But not all feelings are a choice.

@Scribbles The choice is acting on the feeling or not. One may feel the urge to kill someone. The choice is acting on that feeling or not.

@hippyjoe1955 you don't think feelings are important in gay and heterosexual love? Only choices?

@Scribbles The sexual act is a voluntary act. You can act or not act on that choice. It is part of being an adult human being.

@hippyjoe1955 are you saying, you can't be gay with out sex? That only choices make you gay?

What about feelings, or what arouses you or does not arouse you? Aren't those things part of being a human being too?

@Scribbles Define gay.

@hippyjoe1955 I'd say that a current and most commonly accepted definition by most civilized people is that Homosexuality is one of many sexual orientations. A sexual orientation is defined by what you are romantically and sexually attracted to. What you are romantically and sexually attracted to do has nothing to do with your choices to express or not express that attraction. Sexual orientation is an internal thing.

@Scribbles So if a man has the urge to rape women that is ok because that is his sexual orientation?

@Scribbles I am simply pointing out the folly in your position. The fact is that we are all responsible for our actions. A man who has sex with a man or a woman who has sex with a woman is not a victim or some sort of protected species. They are simply abandoning the natural function of sex. Not sure why you seem to believe otherwise. There are all kinds of sexual perversions. That people have them does not make them right. Witness pedophilia.