Is "micro" cheating a real thing?

These things COULD lead to cheating, but are not cheating in themselves. Plenty of women would do these things whilst having a boyfriend, but not only would that conveniently not be cheating, as she owns a vagina, but if the man said anything against he, he would be classed as being controlling and abusive. I'm pretty conservative, but as long as the other person in the relationship isn't going out to meet some guy, often, over night without telling me i'm not so fussed. A few years ago I was with a girl for a year and a half. Towards the end of the relationship she had a picture of herself and a guy sat on her bed. I thought nothing of it, I don't have anything against being close with friends. She accused me of cheating when a girl, whom i never went any further with than simply texting (never met her), and she was upset at one point, saying she was ugly, no guys would like her etc so I said if i were single I'd have happily cheered her up, you know just to make her feel better. She classed that as cheating. She later dumped me, got with the guy in the picture. If I was like her, I'd have classed the guy on her bed as cheating. But it's fine when it's a girl doing it. This double standard needs to die.