If a friend who's gained weight asks you if she's gotten fat, do you spare her feelings or be completely honest?

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EuphoricTurtle · 41-45, M

There's a difference between gaining weight and getting fat, but I would always rather be honest about it.

SW-User

This question didn't state that gaining weight is the same as getting fat.

EuphoricTurtle · 41-45, M

What I meant is, just because she gained weight it doesn't mean she got fat. Much like just because someone lost weight doesn't make them thin/slim.

If someone has gained weight but isn't fat (even if we were to use a limited scale such as BMI) then you should have no problem in being honest. If someone has gained sufficient weight to be considered fat (once again by BMI standards) then I still would think it would be better to be honest but obviously be a bit more diplomatic about it as there may even have been due to medical reasons.

SW-User

I meant the question gave enough info to clarify that it didn't prove gaining weight is related to getting fat.