JimboSaturn · 56-60, M
When I was in my 20's I would talk to anyone. I'm not sure about anyone else but once you reached adulthood, you were in that world and age didn't matter. I see that a lot here still.
However, I have seen the movement of people thinking 25 is not an adult and some real ageism on social media.
However, I have seen the movement of people thinking 25 is not an adult and some real ageism on social media.
Mindful · 56-60, F
I'm going to list my observations here: It sounds as if you've grown emotionally and socially. A lot. You've put in a lot of work to get past your fears of speaking to women. Great! The next greatest step in a relationship is a man's ability to listen. Just listen. Ask questions and just sit and listen, with compassion. It doesn't mean you will find the perfect person, but women want a 1) provider 2) protector -physical or emotional strength to withstand life's pressures, physical to know how to fight off dangers emotional because she will have mood swings. You have to be emotionally resilient/consistent. 3) back to being a good listener who can also be empathetic. 4) a woman wants to believe she chose you--so being too forward can make you look desperate. Desperate is a man who will pick just anyone at all. You have to know the type of person you want. What are the most important qualities a woman should have to bring YOU joy and admiration. Now that you are no longer afraid to speak to people, wait and see if a woman wants to speak to you. I don't know why, but a man who is too eager, who doesn't wait, who doesn't allow time to pass, is a turn off. I hope you find a connection. Just be ready that she may not always like that you talk to everybody /anybody. Hopefully you will find someone who likes a talker and a friendly person. Thats probably one of the qualities you should look for in a partner since you're so vocal. You're also a bit of an intellectual so someone who is into science/math field and can understand many variables might fit your personality type. I'm just guessing. As for your age observations, it's the natural order of things. People have to be challenged to conciously reach out to other age groups. You could write a paper or book about why you think it's important. There may be some books out there on age gaps. But in general people prefer mating within their age groups. There are many cultural and social misunderstanding when people date outside of their age group. Music and entertainment preferences is one SIMPLE example.
Heroisthebest25 · 22-25, M
@Mindful Wow that's a long answer. But yeah I agree with many of the points. By the way I wasn't just talking about dating but also friendships and general socializing too. Also yeah at 25 for dating I mainly prefer women in the 21-30 age range tho(that's what I set on dating apps like Hinge) so yeah within 4-5 years my age max mostly but I can still go for someone older up to 35. I meant mainly about socializing and that sometimes I do talk to international women in their 30s and even 40s too. I am just a recent MBA graduate who is trying to find connection as I don't have that steady peer environment now which I had in University.
Heroisthebest25 · 22-25, M
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