The reason why today and tomorrow will be hard. What do you feel?
Today we are going out basically to this part of our city Bangalore in India close to the Bull Temple, because my dad's ex-colleague Bijan Uncle's son Ayush is getting married. So we were long time family friends and Ayush is someone who grew up with me, went to the same school as me, same tuition classes but was a grade below me. He is 24 now and I am 25. So today is his reception function and he had his engagement about 5-6 months ago where I went too. So yeah he is marrying this girl who was his classmate during his undergrad years in engineering. Yeah it might sound crazy at 24 but they had to. He is Bengali too like me but his gf is a South Indian Kannadiga person and her parents are more traditional and they said she has to marry now at 24 or else the next muhurat(auspicious time) said by an astrologer for her marriage will be when she is 32 which is late for them so yeah they are getting married now. Today is the reception and tomorrow is the actual wedding which will be in Varthur area of our city.
Sadly I am kinda uneasy about attending his wedding due to worry of FOMO(Fear of Missing Out). Personally tho I am not even looking to get married now at all. But yeah my mom sometimes compares me to Ayush as he was academically brilliant in school, is working now(even though he started working right after engineering and didn't do an MBA like me), is more responsible and matured whereas I am still job search and freshly done with MBA and she feels i am less matured. Also he has a gf, is getting married and everyone are like "Congrats Bhai"(bhai means bro in Hindi and many Indian languages). Like it's visible he is romantically successful but in my case it's invisible. Yes I am socializing and just 2 days ago I had an amazing interaction with a French Expat woman in Lavelle Road and we even connected on LinkedIn but it's invisible to everyone and still when I will go for his wedding it will seem like someone about my age is being "more grown up". So yeah what should I even do?
Sadly I am kinda uneasy about attending his wedding due to worry of FOMO(Fear of Missing Out). Personally tho I am not even looking to get married now at all. But yeah my mom sometimes compares me to Ayush as he was academically brilliant in school, is working now(even though he started working right after engineering and didn't do an MBA like me), is more responsible and matured whereas I am still job search and freshly done with MBA and she feels i am less matured. Also he has a gf, is getting married and everyone are like "Congrats Bhai"(bhai means bro in Hindi and many Indian languages). Like it's visible he is romantically successful but in my case it's invisible. Yes I am socializing and just 2 days ago I had an amazing interaction with a French Expat woman in Lavelle Road and we even connected on LinkedIn but it's invisible to everyone and still when I will go for his wedding it will seem like someone about my age is being "more grown up". So yeah what should I even do?
22-25, M
