People often choose the pain they know over the peace they do not.

Your brain’s primary job is to keep you alive, not to make you happy.

To the subconscious, familiar means safe …. even when familiar means painful. Your brain knows how to handle what it’s seen before.

But something genuinely new …. real peace, deep joy, openness …. reads as a threat, simply because it’s unknown.

That’s why people go back to what hurts them. Not because they’re broken….
Because they already know how to survive it.

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itsnotimportant · F

I believe there are more complex layers to this, however it is true that people will fall to familiarity than the unknown.

Renkon · M

@itsnotimportant @itsnotimportant True....but I see a lot of people who try to fix what's broken rather than look at that as a sign to travel in a different direction.

itsnotimportant · F

@Renkon It can be either self imposed or real limitations we all have. Either placed within a culture and environment, or very real constraints like financial stability and such. And then we all have some form of fear holding us back that keep us attached to the same old familiar. We don't always appreciate the freedom we have when we are able to choose.

Renkon · M

@itsnotimportant Hmm... you have a valid point there.
Sometimes people are held back by circumstance...we need to find our strengths to break those strings and surge ahead.