Can you all explain why so many men especially older men ask women on here to PM them even if they would never meet each other in person?
I am truly surprised seeing how many men on here(SW) especially older men in their 40s, 50s, even 60+ asking women to PM them. If a new woman comes on the site or someone posts their pic or anything, I can see multiple men asking her to chat with them in PM, her whiteboards full of men asking her to PM etc. I am not saying its wrong as I am myself a man who wants to meet women so I can understand this excitement and urge to meet and get to know women but I am confused because almost everyone is anonymous on here. Plus most of us don't live in the same city or country or even continent. For example I am an Indian living in the city Bangalore in India and many users here are in the US or Canada or England etc so if I message a woman from US on here, we will be penpal mostly as idk when I will move abroad, plus idk whether she is a legit person or some catfish or fake account. Its very hard to know on anonymous sites like this. Many young women account on here looks fake. I am 25 now and for me it feels extremely silly to chat with someone whom I can't even meet in person and it will remain a penpal thing. It almost looks like many men on this site wants the easiest way to meet women.
A couple of years ago when I was more shy and lonely, I would also message women on this site but it was hard as many lives oceans apart for me and we might never meet in person so it felt less satisfying. But after entering MBA in mid 2023, I slowly stopped depending on SW PMs because I got real life crushes in campus. Nowadays I don't message anyone on here because I am literally having real life conversations with not only Indian women but also foreign expat women from multiple countries like Germany, US, UK, Australia, Russia, Africa, Denmark etc in Cafes, UB City mall etc in Central cosmopolitan areas of our city Bangalore so if I can meet and talk to women in person now, why should I waste time messaging women on here who are continents apart. So yeah nowadays I only post on here. For messaging women, I use Instagram where I can message women in their 20s from my own city with mutual followers and everything so I can have a chance of meeting her in future. Yeah ghosting happens but at least they are real women from my city doing MBA, having real Linkedins, interns etc whereas on here everyone is anonymous so catfish chances are more. So can you all explain why so many men even older men like twice my age fall into this trap of asking women to PM them even though the women can be a catfish, a fake account, can be very far away and they can't even meet and will be penpals? I mean whats the use?
A couple of years ago when I was more shy and lonely, I would also message women on this site but it was hard as many lives oceans apart for me and we might never meet in person so it felt less satisfying. But after entering MBA in mid 2023, I slowly stopped depending on SW PMs because I got real life crushes in campus. Nowadays I don't message anyone on here because I am literally having real life conversations with not only Indian women but also foreign expat women from multiple countries like Germany, US, UK, Australia, Russia, Africa, Denmark etc in Cafes, UB City mall etc in Central cosmopolitan areas of our city Bangalore so if I can meet and talk to women in person now, why should I waste time messaging women on here who are continents apart. So yeah nowadays I only post on here. For messaging women, I use Instagram where I can message women in their 20s from my own city with mutual followers and everything so I can have a chance of meeting her in future. Yeah ghosting happens but at least they are real women from my city doing MBA, having real Linkedins, interns etc whereas on here everyone is anonymous so catfish chances are more. So can you all explain why so many men even older men like twice my age fall into this trap of asking women to PM them even though the women can be a catfish, a fake account, can be very far away and they can't even meet and will be penpals? I mean whats the use?
22-25, M
