Can you explain why I get these mixed feelings when I talk to older expat women?
So yeah I often talked with older foreign women from multiple countries who are expats in our city Bangalore in India and I met them in UB City mall, 1MG Lido mall, Lavelle Road and Indiranagar. Like yesterday in 1MG Lido mall, I talked with American expat woman living for a decade in Bangalore and she was older and about mid 30s to early 40s. Previously too I talked with an older Australian expat woman in UB City mall who was in her 40s too. I am 25 so yeah I can definitely talk with older women as I am myself an adult and more than old enough for that. The interactions go well and feel socially rich but I get a mixed feeling. On one hand, I feel proud that I am confident to talk with the older women even 10+ years older than me and feel more matured after talking to them and sometimes interactions can feel calmer and richer than even some women in their 20s at times. I absolutely enjoy it and feel proud as many of my peers stick to Indian women only in similar age ranges like within 2-5 years of their age max and often same age even in their early to mid 20s and often not experimenting and meeting diverse new people whereas I can smoothly approach women cross-age and cross-nationality. This also makes me comfortable with diverse people honestly. But the same thing also makes me feel a bit of a disconnect.
Yeah often in areas like Church Street, Lavelle Road, Indiranagar, I see people mostly hanging out with peers like from their college or peer aged work colleagues etc. So yeah I feel some disconnect because they are easily able to enjoy and hang out with women in their peer age range whereas I am taking more social risks by cold approaching women to socialize with them and talk to women from 20s to 40s age range because I am freshly done with my MBA so the setting to meet people naturally is gone now. I am having to be extra careful of reading social cues, know when to disengage, face some rejections like woman walking away or saying she is in a rush or even mentioning her boyfriend or husband sometimes which didn't happen in my MBA campus. So yeah I see them easily hanging out with peer aged women whereas I am mostly out there solo even though my social skills are developing much better. A lot of men especially here in India would be intimidated to approach an older woman especially a foreign one whereas I don't. Sadly most young people in India call older men as uncle if he is over 10 years older than and call older women as aunty if she is 10+ years older but I don't and I talk with older expat women like an equal. What do you feel?
Yeah often in areas like Church Street, Lavelle Road, Indiranagar, I see people mostly hanging out with peers like from their college or peer aged work colleagues etc. So yeah I feel some disconnect because they are easily able to enjoy and hang out with women in their peer age range whereas I am taking more social risks by cold approaching women to socialize with them and talk to women from 20s to 40s age range because I am freshly done with my MBA so the setting to meet people naturally is gone now. I am having to be extra careful of reading social cues, know when to disengage, face some rejections like woman walking away or saying she is in a rush or even mentioning her boyfriend or husband sometimes which didn't happen in my MBA campus. So yeah I see them easily hanging out with peer aged women whereas I am mostly out there solo even though my social skills are developing much better. A lot of men especially here in India would be intimidated to approach an older woman especially a foreign one whereas I don't. Sadly most young people in India call older men as uncle if he is over 10 years older than and call older women as aunty if she is 10+ years older but I don't and I talk with older expat women like an equal. What do you feel?
22-25, M