Is that guy really better than me when it comes to talking to women?
So yesterday even though I had great interactions with foreign expat women from countries like Netherlands, Denmark, Australia etc across Central areas of our city Bangalore in India like UB City mall, Lavelle Road, 1MG Lido mall etc, in Church Street things were suddenly. Church Street is a pedestrian-only youthful street where many guys do approach especially women for content creation, street interviews, photography etc. So I saw this guy who was mostly a content creator was talking with this French expat woman. She was really beautiful. He was guessing her age and she said she is 25 which is the same age as me as I am 25 too. He was clearly recording while talking and they were talking and he eventually asked her Instagram by saying he will show her how to make some cookies and she shared her Instagram. I felt worse as I always chicken out when it comes to asking Instagram from women even if the conversation goes really well. After they were done talking, I approached that French woman too but I was saying I was just saying Hi and trying to socialize with new people but she smiled and said actually I am in rush and getting late so not today. I of course respected it saying "Okay sure have a great day". Then that guy approached me saying "You want to socialize right? Follow this Instagram channel and you will learn more social skills and this is how I learnt too". I followed it and he also said me to make it more playful with women like guessing her country or guessing her age.
Actually unlike these content creators, I just approach women for human to human interactions and just some social oxygen as I am freshly done with MBA and job seeking. I never film or record anything during interactions and I just say the women that I am genuinely looking to socialize and meet new people. But I also run out of things to say during conversations which I guess are some of my traits of introversion. Yeah I am much more confident now but still have some introversion. I was just extremely shy for years due to severe bullying in school which lowered my self esteem but I overcame it at 23 in mid 2024. Now at 25, I can approach and initiate easily but sometimes I run out of things to say even if the interaction goes well and chicken out while asking Instagram whereas this content creator asked it easily in the pretense of making cookies. I saw his Instagram page and its a content creator page and I saw he does make videos interviewing or talking to foreign women in Bangalore, Mumbai and even abroad which made me feel FOMO so I unfollowed the page. But is he really better than me? Should I be even bolder? I don't wanna do it for any content and just for making genuine connections, cross-cultural interactions and enjoy socializing and meeting new people. What do you feel?
Actually unlike these content creators, I just approach women for human to human interactions and just some social oxygen as I am freshly done with MBA and job seeking. I never film or record anything during interactions and I just say the women that I am genuinely looking to socialize and meet new people. But I also run out of things to say during conversations which I guess are some of my traits of introversion. Yeah I am much more confident now but still have some introversion. I was just extremely shy for years due to severe bullying in school which lowered my self esteem but I overcame it at 23 in mid 2024. Now at 25, I can approach and initiate easily but sometimes I run out of things to say even if the interaction goes well and chicken out while asking Instagram whereas this content creator asked it easily in the pretense of making cookies. I saw his Instagram page and its a content creator page and I saw he does make videos interviewing or talking to foreign women in Bangalore, Mumbai and even abroad which made me feel FOMO so I unfollowed the page. But is he really better than me? Should I be even bolder? I don't wanna do it for any content and just for making genuine connections, cross-cultural interactions and enjoy socializing and meeting new people. What do you feel?
22-25, M