My observation for today/ met with someone from my childhood randomly at a cafe and had a spontaneous coffee together

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To my understanding as of today there is the gender dysphoria, the religion dysphoria, the political parties dysphoria, the nations dysphoria.
I see all of them as structure dysphoria and I connect them to an overly aggressive male principle alongside an overly repressive female principle, either this is coming from family dynamics, nation dynamics, political systems.

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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

My son has been studying ancient civilizations and has noted how awful women have been treated throughout history and almost every culture. I remember growing up in my era and thinking how lucky I was, but as time has traveled into my adulthood I realize how we actually haven't progressed that much, even in countries where great efforts had to be made for something close to but not quite equality.

I'd safely say most men have no clue how frustrating it is to be a woman and they still play the, I'm a man, card to get away with repressing women and making change impossible.

And to hear men complain that women this and women that when we as women know historically and currently how were treated is sickening.

Also seeing women make enhancements to themselves to appeal to men makes me sad. I've done it plenty myself, knowing if I wasn't thin and provocative I'd never get male attention.

I kind of hate every day knowing I won't be seen for who I am or what I do but how good I looked doing it.

I'm sick of humanity tbh. If we aren't fighting something we're enabling something by attempting to be peaceful.

Boeing · 36-40

@ScreamingFox I am not agreeing here necessarily. I am taking responsibility equally for the feminine and the masculine and I am not placing myself in this feeling of victimhood and looking for justice, not because of my thinking but because of my feeling.
What I am talking about isn't the bad guys vs the good guys thing. Is a responsibility of all parties involved.. To my understanding gender dysphoria can equally be present in males and females and observing and talking to my male friends I also see their side, all the hardships they have to face. You don't seem to look into that at all, and it is not only you, it is the biggest amount of female population, only looking at their difficulties and hating the other. Either it is they are hating the other gender, the other religion, the other political party, the other nation, I don't care, it is about us hating the other.
I am not into that. I am not taking sides, and I do believe that by experiencing and cultivating peace and love, we are holding the place for it to grow, I don't think that we need to be in a constant fight of exhausting our resources and then blaming the other for not doing their part. I think to do our part is to let the weapons down and stop the wars, and not to keep on fighting them.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@Boeing if you ever have a child you will understand that the hurt of women is not to blame, it is a plea.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@Boeing and I have looked deeper whether you know it or not, I always look deeper. I used to be the woman defending men. But time has taught me what being a woman actually means and it doesn't align with how we've been treated. Ever.

Boeing · 36-40

@ScreamingFox Yes Fox, obviously, the world screaming from pain isn't screaming out of nothing or for fun... There are always the reasons..... but to keep on the narrative of who started it and how hard it is for this part vs that part.... I have talked to men who think exactly as you think, for women, the other way around. Consider society giving all the benefits and care to women and seeing being a man as a less cared member for society, they describe about how they have to face all harshness of wars, of being the protector, of accepting harsh behaviors.. I was getting very triggered listening to these, like you do, and I was always eager to tell them that it is not how they see it.....

But what I see now is that getting us into wars, civil wars between genders, nations, etc etc is only benefiting another higher structure.

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@Boeing I'm all for peace and equality. And I have a son who I raised without all the harshness, without a man, I see how he struggles as a male, I'm not discounting that. I see the whole picture.

But I don't see how we can avoid harshness when it's in our very nature to seek individual truth in an existence so vastly different. I would be 100% for compromise. I have always been that way. I used believe in live and let live until I lost every safety I had. There is monster running my country and making it very hard to survive. He berates women and abuses children and I will not be told to look at his perspective on things any more.

There are monsters out there and monstrous ideals that don't deserve any more leniency as they've given none.